Am I gay? How do I decide?

Question

I am 18 and since I was 13 I have known that I like both boys and girls. I have dated mostly boys, and my last 2 relationships did not work out because of me. Like when I would kiss them, it felt wrong, and disgusting. 2 weeks ago I saw my ex-girlfriend from 3 years ago, and we got back together, when I kiss her it feels right, I really like her, and I feel that I am at a turning point and need to decide if I want to be with boys or girls, any advice u can give me will be helpful. Thanks

Answer 1

Just follow your heart. I'm sure it i just a phase

Answer 2

You say you like both boys and girls, so this would mean you are bisexual, but then you say you felt a disgust when you kissed boys, and it feels right with a girl, so I think you are rather lesbian. But you have to know this yourself. Do what you feel is right, don't feel pushed that you should be with boys coz this is "normal". Maybe there was also something wrong with these guys you were with and it might be different with another boy... follow your heart and look for someone you love, whether a boy or a girl. Don't get intimate with someone if you feel disgust from it.

Answer 3

umm do you feel the same way about both men and women as in attraction? like can you fall in love with both? most probably, you are gay because i read an article that there are no bi people, just people that are gay but are hiding it or were taught that they are supposed to like the opposite sex and thus do so. so if you really feel that it feels more right being with a girl than with a guy and if guys tend to disgust you, you are most probably gay.

Answer 4

Do what feels right. One thing that I always do when I'm trying to make a huge decision is say it. Say, "I am gay," and mean it, if you feel relieved that you have made the decision and it feels right then you know. If you are second guessing yourself then reevaluate. Also, check into any groups in your area that can help with the pressures of being anything but hetero, they may be able to help.

Answer 5

You're very young, so you might consider just going with what feels right for a while and not trying to label it or classify yourself.

Of course, your username includes "rainbow," so you may already have answered the question yourself.

Answer 6

I can't answer a question that you already know the answer to. It's not a decision, it's something you feel within yourself. Listen to what your heart, mind, and soul is telling you, and go with it. Only you know what feels right to you. Good luck!

Answer 7

U just said that when you with a girl it feels, so whats the question again?

Answer 8

You don't have to decide between boys or girls; you date who you are attracted to. If you like both, you're bi.

Answer 9

I don't really think teenhood is the best age to convert to homosexuality. I think those matters are decided much later in life, once you've gained more experience and you are mature

Answer 10

If you said that you are not happy with guys, then maybe you should think of staying with girls, you seem to be happier with them. Do what makes you happy!

Answer 11

It may feel right don't mean itz right. God sed go into d world procreate. Don't disobey him. H please don't say ur following ur heart. Followin ur heart is followin ur emotions with ur brain 2 guide u. May it guide u well. Cuz once ur gay u quit bein a homo sapien n becum a homo sexual. Think b4 u leap.