I have a new upstairs neighbor. Nice, middle aged, single woman. She isn't home much. She has two very small dogs (a pom and a yorkie) that do nothing but yap all day. And at night when she is on her computer (which is right above my son's crib) the sound of her computer chair rolling around on the hardwood floor is SUPER loud. She needs something under it. How can I mention these things to her without sounding mean or picky? I am usually really easy to get along with. I never heard the last couple that lived up there, so they never bothered me. I want to keep a good relationship with my new neighbor, but the dogs and the chair are really bothersome. Help?!
2006-09-13 13:06:05 · 16 answers · asked by avon_princess 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I had a neighbor that would grill out above my deck, for some reason, the grease would drip all over my patio and actually killed my plants. I talked to him about it and he apologized and said he would get something under it. When he didn't by the next time he grilled (and it filled a pot and killed the flowers), I went and bought him a car floor mat and went upstairs and knocked on his door. He said he knew what that was for and explained to his company what his grill was doing and put it under and I had no more problems. He didn't take it offensively and we remained friends.
I believe that you should tell her in a kind manner that you have a baby and when she rolls her chair on the floor, it wakes the baby or you are afraid it will wake the baby and suggest a rug to help quiet it. You should also tell her about your dogs. She may not know that her dogs bark while she is gone. If you don't get anywhere with her as to even for her to thank you and make suggestions on how to fix it, then you should go to your landlord. I wish you the best.
2006-09-13 14:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell her kindly about the problems. You said she was a nice woman, I am sure she would not make grief for you deliberately. I had a neighbor who had a loud dog, and she ended up putting the dog in doggie day care. All was well after that. As for the chair, a rug would solve the problem. I'm sure she would go out and buy one if she knew of the problem.
2006-09-13 14:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Froggbitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you have this really nice rug that goes under your chair to keep your floor looking good, And about the dogs ask her how old they are and tell her that you thought they were puppies because you here them yapping all the time.Or you can do as someone already said and buy a rug for her. Either way you pay rent too and she shouldn't be bothered by what you have to say.
2006-09-13 13:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by TeDdY_GrAmZ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is most likely not aware of the dogs behavior when she is not home. Leave a polite note for her and tell her your grievances. You would be surprised that she might get a mat under the chair and do something to keep her doggies quiet during the day. Of course if she is nasty then complain to the office about the dogs.
2006-09-13 13:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just very sweetly say, "I'm sorry to bother you, there must be something wrong with the building. For some reason your chair sounds incredibly loud down in my apartment." then go on to tell her that it wakes your son up and you would gladly purchase a rug for her. Just be nice so she knows you're not blaming her.
The dogs are a different story!
2006-09-13 13:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by tish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your neighbor is probably not aware the the dogs are barking.
Buy them a toy and mention to your neighbor that the dogs must be lonley or bored because they whine all the time when being left alone.
2006-09-13 17:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by pro_and_contra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the landlord be the bad guy, you pay to live there the same as her and are entitled to a peaceful home. He could talk to her without being mean the first time then if it continues he at least knows the problem. Good luck
2006-09-13 16:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by blzabobb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really very smart and patient.
I wish that your neighbor upstairs reads this question and considers her behavior. Would you try to talk to her gently and let her know the real situation. If she does not change, you can mail her or ask somebody to forward to her this whole page of question and answers.
2006-09-13 14:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upfront and honest with her..but polite. She may not even be aware of the doggies barking and I am sure she doesn't know the sound her chair makes since she isn't in your son's room.
2006-09-13 13:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she would like a new rug,, house warming gift,, buy a cheap one at wal mart,,, say wow this would look good here and the chair wont scratch the floor,, then while your there say i knew you had dogs they cry a lot when ur not here.... good luck
2006-09-13 13:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋