Given that there is no tell-tale sign that a man is a virgin, this seems to me to be yet another hypocritical religious rule that limits women while giving men an escape route (ie, it didn't happen unless you're caught).
Why do women subject themselves to such an unbalanced rule?
2006-09-13 13:00:29 · 12 answers · asked by bobkgins_sock_puppet_1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes, it is. I think jenny lee says it best: ".. if she doesn't want to have a bad reputation..." The same activities that society uses to judge valour in men will give women a "bad reputation".
And why do women subject themselves to it? Women in Sub-Saharan Africa still subject themselves to "circumcision". Teens who haven't had the procedure yet are ridiculed by other girls, until they beg their parents to have their genitals mutilated. Chinese women above a certain age still ridicule younger girls because they have such big, ugly feet. Why would anyone NOT want to have their feet broken and bound at a young age, if only to fit in?
It's like that because changing it requires a lot of people to totally disregard society's judgements, and keep on doing it for years and years. And from some of the answers, you can see that plenty of women have come up with justifications for why it's a good idea, just like they do in Africa and China. Just be glad that in Western society, the stigma doesn't require anything painful.
2006-09-13 13:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by abram.kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just virginity, it's sex in general.
Why do we subject ourselves to it.. well there's not much we can do!! It's not us judging ourselves.
There is no tell-tale sign that a woman is a virgin either. The hymen can be broken by a number of things that aren't a penis.
Exercise or horse riding for example.
The men have strict rules too such as no maturbation which I think might even it out as men are more likely to masterbate and er. . have urges. Even if women do it too males still have a higher sex drive.
I don't know if you were asking religious women your question, I'm not one but my point still stands.
2006-09-13 20:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its unbalanced. Its indicative of a double standard regarding sexuality - men should get to have sex, but its a no no for women. Even beyond virginity - sex makes a woman slutty and a man studly. I think some women subject themselves to it because they absorb society's negative views on women. Others see it as a viable option - they want to avoid pregnancy, disease, heart break, religious purposes etc. If they expect the same standards of virginity for men than its not so unbalanced. But even within marriage - we're really not to far from the times when it was ok for men to have sex outside of marriage and not ok for women. Sexuality is wrought with double standards.
2006-09-13 20:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lillith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having gone through the mill as a male virgin until I was 18 I do agree that there is an extreme doube standard when it comes to gender virginity. For a male to be a virgin you are considered to be Gay or a failure whereas a female who is not a virgin is considered to be a trollop or a slut. My waiting was intentional as I felt that the giving of oneself should be a beautiful sharing between two people who were in love. I still believe that and feel saddened to see the act of making love cheapened as it has become today.
2006-09-13 20:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by anikintyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the old days, a non-virgin was considered damaged property. In those days, all the way up to about half of the time the US has been a country, women really didn't have many rights. The Bible is full of examples of how women are thought of as less than man (and only slightly better than pets). It has been this way for millenia, so it is no wonder that there are throwbacks to it today.
2006-09-13 20:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you'r asking about sex before marriage, it applies to men, as well as to women. I f you'r talking about the virgin birth, what do you mean by limiting women? Mary knew it was a great honor and show of God's grace to be chosen for such a role.
2006-09-13 20:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by edward_lmb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman values herself, and doesn't want disease, or just to have fun, and use herself and have a bad reputation, that is why a woman stays a virgin.
Why give it up to a man that has AIDS or has been with 30 different women. He won't respect a woman period.
Yes, men may have made up these rules, but just think they wanted a pure unadulterated bride only meant for them back in the biblical times.
Today's woman does it for herself which is also a plus for the man.
2006-09-13 20:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that viriginity is a manifestation of male dominance at all. I cherish virginity, and the reason why I partake in it until marriage is because of what God said. Sex is a sacred and private gift that should only be practiced until marriage. Personally, God would bless me for waiting, so in the end, I get the blessing just because I obeyed God's commandments.
2006-09-13 20:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. I have no intention of marrying as a virgin or marrying a female virgin. It really doesn't mean anything to me as long as you don't have an STD or HIV.
2006-09-13 20:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman doesn't subject herself to cultural rules of thousands of years ago! Uh, oh...hell for me?
(If so, maybe this is worth it)
;-)
2006-09-15 16:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋