He is very aggressive and he doesn't give me a chance to be turned on, I get very tense and start overanalysing the situation
2006-09-13 12:53:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How much talking about the situation have you done? How did the conversation go?
2006-09-13 12:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Yooka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him exactly that. Guys are ready to have sex at the drop of a hat. They are turned on by your mere presence. He may not realize that it's a bit different for women. Talk to him, teach him about the art of seduction. Explain to him that he can have just about anything he wants in this world if he goes about it the right way, and that includes sex. It's a lesson that all guys eventually have to learn. Tell him what it takes to turn you on. It's probably not all that complicated if you're a normal woman. In any case, you should not stand for him being overly aggressive and coercing you into having sex when you're not into it. He will be much better off in his sex life if you educate him on how to turn a woman on. I wouldn't consider it a matter of sexual incompatibility, moreso sexual immaturity. So either lose him, or help him grow (in more ways than one!).
2006-09-13 20:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with any decision- you should list the pluses and minuses and see what the totals are. List the reasons for choosing him as your boyfriend and make a list of his faults. If his faults outweigh the reasons you decided to date him in the first place you should probably not become sexually intimate with him and start looking for some one new. If his pluses are more positive you will probably feel more sexually turned on to him just by remembering what attracted you to him in the first place.
2006-09-13 20:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by schlepp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't communicate with your boyfriend then that's just a disaster waiting to happen. Talk to him. Make a date where all you two is talk and talk about sex. tell him what you like and be specific. If you like it slow, if you like to be teased for a few minutes, if you like a soft touch at first and then more later...tell him. If you like to be teased to the point of practically begging for it make sure you tell him. Once he sees you getting turned on he will be so turned on that his old habits will be done with. He won't look back after that because you have given him something to always strive for. When the women are turned on it helps the men with the visuals that they like to have. Try to trust him a little and relax, you'll be glad you did.
2006-09-13 19:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even bother staying in a situation where you are unhappy? What are you afraid of? What's really stopping you from being happy? As far as I can see, the only one holding you back from being happy is YOU.
All you are doing is giving in to his needs. But is bothered at all whether you are satisfied or not? NO, and I doubt he's gonna change anytime soon...
2006-09-13 19:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
He sounds like a real brute.
2006-09-13 19:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better stock up on batteries.
2006-09-13 19:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a different guy
2006-09-13 19:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have sex before marriage anyways!
2006-09-13 19:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by mag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if_u_love_him_then_find_u_someone_on_the_side
2006-09-13 19:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Just C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋