be honest.
2006-09-13 12:48:03 · 23 answers · asked by kate m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any "man" who would think such a thing is simple a boy in a man's body. He lacks maturity and understanding of morals and beliefs. A woman is fully capable of being a virgin at that age or older and not ever have been fat, ugly or either at any time in her life. It is also the way a boy would think as boys are still stuck in the idea the world evolves around them and that every woman is desperate for what a guy can give her, namely in a boys opinion, sex. A boy doesn't understand there is much more to life than sex. A boy doesn't understand the simple fact that woman are capable of honor, integrety, and staying true to her beliefs. A boy must always make assumptions based not on any real knowlege or information, just an idea he has in his head and then blurts out to the world as he has not matured enough to keep some thoughts in his head and not out in the world where they do not belong. Boys have not learned simple courtesy, kindness, and some may even still pull the wings off flys just to see them squirm. Boys think with their dic*s and not their heads, allow their hormones to dictate their behaviors, and think the earth is in orbit around them.
Men understand that women are capable of honor, integrety, honesty, and morality. Men understand that women don't place as much value on the physical act as they do of the emotional aspect of a relationship. Men understand that women who are true to themselves do not settle for boys in mens bodies, and thy are capable of waiting for the right man to come along to share the gift of their bodies with. Men understand that relationships are much more than sex, that it takes hard work, and that women wish to be courted, treated with dignity, and not as some man's bone. Men understand that a woman's real value is not in her outside package, but what is inside her soul. Men know that a woman who has some pounds on her is very curvy, womanly, and sexy, rather than sleeping with a female version of another man, or a stick figure, a curvy woman is soft, comforting, and very squeezable, that curves are not something to look down on, but rather something to look forward to. Men have gotten past the stage of believing t.v. the movies, and magazines which protray women as anorexic creatures all skin, bones, and hollow cheeks and looking like they just came out of a concentration camp and somebody decided to put makeup and good clothing on them in the hopes of helping them look alive instead of coffin bait. Men understand that he is going to go grey if he is lucky, bald if not, get love handles if not an outright belly that jiggles like a big tub of jello, wrinkles, and walk assisted some day. Men understand that life is not about how his woman looks from one year to the next, but how deeply she loves him, honors him, treats him like the man he is and she is so happy to have, (as there are far too many boys in mens bodies), cherishes him and loves him unconditionally, as well has give birth to his children and nurse him when he is ill or dying as she is most likely to out live him. Men appreciate women in all their shapes and sizes, and know that only 5% of women look like those in the tube, on screen or magazines, and that they should not buy into the bull that hollywood is trying to sell them. Men know all these things and so much more. Boys don't get it, until one day they do, or they may never get it, and there for never be a real man.
So, honestly, no I don't think men will think or assume that a women in her mid 20's and a virgin was once fat, ugly or both at some earlier point in her life. In fact, I believe a man who goes to his wedding bed and has a virgin bride will have a respect for her that other women who give the milk away for free, will never understand, or experiance and therefor need to put down.
2006-09-13 13:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since when does having morals and wanting to stay a virgin no matter what age you are, have anything to do with attracting a man or not? Maybe she used to have a leg or not have a leg. Or was able to see and is now blind in one eye. I mean come on. What does any of this have to do with any of that?
If she is UGLY physically, that is obvious. Being formerly fat is something no one would know unless they knew the girl from the past and if they did not, they would only know if she divulged the info to them and showed pictures.
I don't get what is so horrible about remaining a virgin. It is like a very rare thing these days.
2006-09-13 12:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by love_my_4x4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No if she is great for her just means that she is waiting for that special person to come along and then it will happen. I find that appealing in a girl who is not like eveybody else because it seems that our society has sex on the brain 24/7 these days it is not the most important thing in the world. I am in my 20's and still a virgin and I am proud of it I dont care what others think. When the time is right it will happen and be that much more special. Just my 2 cents.
2006-09-13 12:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by masterchiefcuda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No...Not at all. I suppose it's the other way round. Women rather treat virgin men with contempt.
As for me, it doesn't matter at all. I don't care if the girl I love is a virgin or not. Ugly or fat??? What's wrong Kate? It's got nothing to do with virginity.
In short, I don't see virginity as a sign of weakness.
2006-09-14 00:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by Razor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men who think it is wrong aren't really men. A woman who can resist the near constant temptations is very special. It does not mean she was/ is ugly/fat, since beauty is always in the eye of the beholder. This girl/woman is to be commended and respected for her self-respect and her will to defend her virginity!
2016-03-27 00:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most days women are choosing to be virgins only because of all the STD's out there. It really is a women choice to stay virgin. It's no cause she's fat or was fat and ugly.
2006-09-13 12:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by My♥Cherry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think soo, woman hold the power they can choose to be virgins or not, I bet you a drunk men would take anything. But in the other case a man cant choose, we are like the beggers, and beggers cant be choosers. Do you choose a guy to go out or does that guy choose you, but at the end who has the final say?
2006-09-13 12:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by enano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would "men" even know unless the use to be fat girl was wearing a sign. "VIRGIN" If a relationship was blossoming and it was necessary for the subject to come up then deal with it then not the what if's.
2006-09-13 12:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Bigdave n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! Your virginity is a precious gift that you can only give once. You should be commended for waiting this long to find the perfect person to share yourself with. I hope he/she is your soul mate, and that when it happens(when you are ready and it is a safe loving situation) it is everything that you dream it to be
2006-09-13 12:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by medusaunveiled 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, the few times I encountered a virgin I gave it no thought. It may sound strange but do people really want to go through all that drama?
Leek at men- would you really want to bother with an inexperienced virgin?
maybe its just me.
2006-09-13 12:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋