There is this girl I like alot and we both have alot in common. We are both pretty shy but not around our friends. We can talk for hours online and have had many many conversations. We call each other friends and I'm even in her top 8 on myspace (if that means anything lol), the only boy from our school in it. But the problem is that in person its just extremely aqkward between us. We've barely said more then hi and sometimes we just kind of avoid each other to avoid the aqkwardness. She has told me before that she's more outgoing around the people she is comfortable with but very shy around the people she likes. Maybe I'm just overthinking this and shes just nice but why would she act like I'm her friend and then not even talk to me that much in real life? I'm to blame for that too I guess but I dont want to be rejected and I just get nervous. Should I ask her why we can't talk in person or would that just sound weird? Even if she doesn't like me I just want to know why we can't talk.
2006-09-13 12:29:33 · 16 answers · asked by Justin B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the problem I really only get that chance (to say more then hey) after school and shes always listening to her Ipod. I dont want to be rude. Would asking her online why it is so aqkward when we are in person be a bad idea?
2006-09-13 12:37:21 · update #1
Regarding the actually asking her out I think that would soon follow but I think that it would be better if we got more comfortable around each other in person before I ask her. Theres a dance coming up in about a month...
2006-09-13 12:40:32 · update #2
Just do it. Do it in person. She has the same doubts you do and will be glad you broke the ice.
2006-09-13 12:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it hon because a girl likes when a guy can be straight forward with their feelings even if their shy and like she told you she acts shy around people she likes you never know what can become of the relationship unless you try even if it makes you and her feel awkward around each other it is best you tell her because you never know if she reciprocates these feelings and it is worth the risk if you will get a good girl out of this situation and I wish you the best of luck
2006-09-13 19:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you guys are that akward around eachother, then how will you be if you're dating of whatever, i've had people i'm way too shy to talk to about stuff like that but i've found out there's a reason, it's because something's not right, pick someone you can talk to openly, somone you're always comfortable with, then you can feel more ope to telling them things you've told no one else, that builds a great relationship !
2006-09-13 19:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by idiot police 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, talk to her online, people usually will open up more when typing than when talking, the best is probally IM, cause you can ask one question at a time and wait for an answer. ask questions about her (girls like to talk about themselves), then slowly ask personal questions, dont say anything like "i like you", she already knows that! get to be a good friend then maybe ask to hang out with her
2006-09-13 19:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by luv78779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, all this talk and I thought you were going to ask if you should ask her out. And you just ask if you should talk in person.
You need to get out of the analyitical frame of mind and just start being more open. Stop trying to figure things out so much, just live your life and lighten up. Devolop some skills, some confidence and build your character.
2006-09-13 19:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
def ask her. if you guys can talk online for hours, you can find a way to talk face to face for hours too! try to take it slow, maybe call her so its a step further than IM. it sounds like you guys would be a really sweet couple. my case was something like this except that we were good friends.
worst comes to worst, she turns you down and you move on!! maybe shell realize later on that hse made a mistake and come crying to you. you never know until yu try
2006-09-13 19:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
up to you. I don't see what could go wrong by asking her and just tell her that she can totally be chill around you because you are non- judgemental (even if you are) but you will eventually get out of this "phase" i guess you could say.. i went through the same thing
2006-09-13 19:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by elemenopee. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you two could maybe hang out with mutual friends that way she will have a better, well rounded overview of you would help out a lot. putting her around what is "comfortable" will maybe get her to view you as being part of that comfort zone. who knows, maybe more than a friendship will come out of it.
peace
2006-09-13 19:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Wonder Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but you haven't had "many, many, many" conversations yet. I say, let the shyness continue it's winding charm until both of you are spontaneously able to confront one another because your attraction to one another is so intense, that, you could care less about your shyness.
Wait it out like General McClellan and you will win this civil war of shyness.
2006-09-13 19:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i kinda do the same thing except i hang out with him at my house but we don't talk like at all at school but i can tell u now she likes you cuz i really like him
2006-09-13 19:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋