Was I wrong?

Question

My sister is receiving food stamps and child care assistance. She has been receiving these since last year when her husband left. She also receives child support. But, her husband moved back in with her and kids the end of December 2005. She did not stop the child support order or inform DHS that he was back. And she is continuing to receive food stamps and child care assistance. They are both working. He works full time for a company over 6 years and she work part time at a daycare. I reported her to DHS for fraud. Was I wrong to do this? i just don't feel it is fair for them to free load off the state and taxpayers like my husband who works and I am stay at home mom. We do not receive food stamps or any assistance from the state. Please let me know what you think. I don't feel guilty about it at all. I just wanted to see what others think.

oh by the way, i did tell her that she was wrong for this. i gave her opportunity to get off the system. she has been doing this for 9 months and both are working and he makes good $ and she is getting over $1000 a month in child support and over $600 from her job, free medical, over $400 in food stamps. no car payment and plus he is bring home every week of $200 or more and her rent is only $500 and she has 2 boys and 1 girl living in 2 bed apt with everything paid except utilities. so i do know the whole situation . they are using the gov't and taxpayers $ to freeload

Answer 1

Good for you, you done the right thing. There is a difference in needed help and abusing help. I get so sick of these people out here who are spitting out kids every 9 months just because it means another welfare check for them and an increase on their food stamps. It makes me sick to my stomach because the ones that are out here busting their butts to support their families couldn't get help for anything if they tried..........SO ONCE AGAIN, GOOD FOR YOU

Answer 2

Honey, I think U were dead wrong because for some reason I feel U had intentions other than saving the tax payers money. U think U have all the answers for the reason she was doing this. For one thing her husband left her long enough she had to apply for this, if it were only a temporary thing then she would have never had to apply in the first place. When U r in some situations and even though she may Love her husband she is probably afraid to say that she thinks he will be leaving again soon. U don't know everything that goes on in their house, and it is no way possible she can explain it to u. She lives in the situation and she knows better. I am not saying what she has done is the right thing to do but U were totally out of line. Now that U have turned her in, ask anyone U know that is really receiving it for a good cause "did they suddenly get a raise". I doubt it. So ultimatly what U did was make a sister relationship go down the drains. I live by this rule: It takes me 24 hrs to mind my own business, I don't have enough time in the day to mind someone elses. And another thing If she was really wholeheartedly abusing the system then GOD would have deffinitely taken care of her, it would have lasted only for a while. Because what goes up must definitely come down. From the sound of things she didn't do anything drastic like move to a bigger place for her kids or buy a new car or anything like that. this may have been a way for her to get some savings so that the next time the husband tries to leave she would be a little fine. U really have no idea, or it could have been what U said she is an abuser but U never know, U have ruined a good sister relationship.Good Luck, U must appoligize and make this right with her.

Answer 3

I am having doubts about this situation. I am not sure if this was the right thing to do since you are her sister, but I have some questions of concern. Don't take me wrong here, there are so many people who are cheating the system and don't get caught. These are my concerns:
How many children are involved? Are these children going to have the health care they need? Will they have plenty of food? Will these children have shelter over their heads? What will happen to these children when your sister and her husband goes to jail? What happens if these children are taken from your sister and put in foster homes? Would you be able to see them?
What if the reason why your sister took him back was because she was scared what would happen if she didn't? He left before, will he leave her again? Is she less secure now than what she was before he came back? Was she been happy before he came back?
I could go on with more questions, but I think I said plenty.

Answer 4

Did you try talking to your sister about it? Did she confide in you that she was doing this? How did you know? I think what you did was wrong. You're sister could end up in jail and the kids are going to have lifelong scars because of that. Could you have talked to your mom or dad about it and maybe they could have reasoned with her? I'm not condoning her behavior because she's wrong for doing that, but I think you were wrong too. I would never do that to my sister or my nieces or nephew. I'll tell you one thing. She will never trust you again. You shouldn't feel guilty but you should feel remorseful. I would have just told her that she needs to report everything and that going to jail, having your kids put in a home, and paying thousands of dollars in fines wasn't worth it. Blood is thicker than tax payer's money.

Answer 5

Well if you don't feel guilty then why are you asking the question? And if you don't feel guilty about it then I assume that you told your sister that it was you that got her in trouble and possibly will be the one that puts her in jail! (probably not right)

I think welfare fraud is a terrible thing, but I think it is pretty sad that you sold out your sister. "When everyone else leaves your life a person can always count on your sister" But I guess that you were never taught that. What would your parents say if they found out what you did, because I'm assuming you did not tell them ether.

Answer 6

You were totally wrong. I have two sisters who I adore and I would NEVER do this to them. You need to worry about your own life; is there not enough going on for you??? You should take up knitting or something!! Totally wrong and you must feel guilty or you wouldn't be asking the whole world what they think!!

Answer 7

I agree with your line of thinking in regards to making her quit milking the system, however, I think it might have been best, if you would have went to her first. Now she is going to face prosecution for this and possible jail time for defrauding the government. I don't know how close your family is, but in my family we help each other, we don't hurt each other. You also may not know the entire situation in regards to their relationship. He may not be staying, she may be doing this as a temporary thing, etc. There could be thousands of possibilities. I hate to say this sis, but I think you were wrong. Your intentions may have been in the right place but your heart was not.

Answer 8

Good for you for doing the right thing!! Too many low-life's get away with robbing the burdened taxpayers. Please do not feel bad. No one deserves a free ride, if you want something, you need to work for it.

Answer 9

u were totally in the right. she is a fraud. if he lives with her now and they both work then she shouldve cancelled the child support and the child care assistance!!

Answer 10

Sometimes enough is enough, and I think that is how you felt, She may not know they would have caught up with her sooner or later. You did what you felt was the right thing to do. Someone has to do the right thing.