Ok, so there's this guy who i've been friends with since like 8th gr. and we went out twice, but i ended up breaking his heart in the end becuase someone who i thought was better came along. Turned out this guy was no better, actually a million times worse, but anyway.. now i have fallin for the guy who i've been friends with since 8th gr. all over again, execpt this time he has a girlfriend. He seems so to happy with her, or at least that's what he says, but hes givin me all the signals that he still likes me. ( which i totally believe b/c after we broke up he liked me for like two years) anyway im just totally obsessing over him and i have no idea how to tell him or how to even bring it up, i dont want to ruin our relationship. HELP!
2006-09-13 12:24:06 · 9 answers · asked by Rachey Babe 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You messed up. Face it. The guy moved on and now that you want him back, you can't have him, and that is probably making you want him even more; just because he is giving you "signals" does not mean he wants you back, Do you really want to hurt his girlfriends feelings by trying to get him back...think about it....MOVE ON AND FIND YOUR OWN MAN, NOT SOMEONE ELSES....
2006-09-13 12:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy Dearest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing's first. You are setting yourself up to have two things happen. either you will break her heart by stealing him, or you will be the other woman. There is no middle ground. I don't care how good you think he is, if he sees a chance to have his cake and eat it too, he will do it. I know. I did it, and so has every other guy that I know. And you and the other girl will let him get away with it for a little while, too, even though you both know about the other, but you don't KNOW about the other. I know this, because my ex wife saw me crossing the street with the girl I was seeing on the side. She saw me, and I saw her. But when she asked me about it, I denied, and denied, and denied. She eventually believed me, even though she knew it was me that she saw. It comes from her WANTING to believe me so much, that she convinced herself.
Now that that's out of the way, and you will never look at men with a trusting eye again, let's talk about you.
You had your chance. You blew it. Be thankful that you and he are still friends. Stop trying to get back with him, or at least have the decency to wait until he leaves the other girl. Even after he leaves her, wait a month or so, so that you know he's not trying to have his cake and eat it too. I'm telling you, if you let him, he will do it.
Lastly, live with the knowledge that you are attractive, and you are capable, adn you are a strong woman in your own right, and you don't need a man or a relationship to validate your existence.
2006-09-13 19:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by shawn_hookings 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short. Just come out and say that you'd like to try it again. Something like, "So, what do you think about us going on a proper date? I think we would have a lot of fun." Use your own words but don't be shy and don't be aggressive. Just let him know you'd like to try being romantic. Everyone's single until they get married (even if they're dating someone.) i.e., it's not over till the preacher pronounces they're man and wife.
2006-09-13 20:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by tish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u dont get him back. u say this guy's really happy wit the girl he's wit now, so why do u wanna ruin it for him again? u already broke his heart, thinkin for urself (that the other guy was better). how u think he felt about that? that he was ur second choice? n he liked u for 2 years after! how long u want him to be chasin after u? u screwed up, n u gotta learn from ur mistakes. leave him n his girlfriend alone.
n now u know that wat goes around comes around....
2006-09-13 20:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe he knows that you're still in love with him - they do get the feelings, however, if I were you I would let it take it's course and not force anything on him. If this is really for you, it will come right to you.
2006-09-13 19:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by charmaine f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends.... are you friends with the girlfriend or not? if ya dont like her, then may the best ***** win....
2006-09-13 19:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offence but your a home wrecking hussy and u need shot
2006-09-13 19:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, you should let him go.
2006-09-13 19:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Orange 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sing "Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me" by the Pussycat Dolls
2006-09-13 19:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by create232000 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋