Shes has a break down everytime shes runs out, and makes me get the stuff for her. If I don't she makes my life hell. I smoke it, but if i don't have any I could care less. But my wife hate that attitude as well. I'm i screwed?
2006-09-13 12:18:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
If she "has a breakdown every time she runs out," she is not using it medicinally. She needs to quite cold turkey. Don't buy her any more, and if she gets too b**chy, go stay with relatives or friends. Call and tell her where you are, so she won't worry, but let her know that she has to get a grip on herself, and you are not coming home until she can discuss it like a lady. Be calm, but determined. State your case rationally, quietly, but very firmly. If she screams in your ear on the phone, say, "I'm hanging up now," and then do so.
It's not a physical addiction, so don't listen to her hype about it. It's an emotional crutch, and you don't want her to have need of emotional crutches, unless perhaps need for your love.
2006-09-13 12:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should've seen this coming before you got married.
You have to stop being p*ssy controlled. Show her you're the bread wiener and tell her pot is illegal and not a good example for your children. (or to even produce them for the matter). It might be harder now, but you have to have alot of selfconfidence and strength. Show her you're serious and not going to be swayed or put up with her B/S anymore!
Or leave her. You can find someone better who would be a good wife who dont smoke pot and would love you and be caring.
2006-09-13 19:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can't help her stop by yourself... the only real way for her to make a commitment to stopping is going to rehab. There, they will really help her and she won't get into trouble with the police, which is another way, but the wrong way. One thing that might help maybe for the both of you to stop, is to stop buying pot for her because when you do that, it just shows her that you think it's ok to do it. She must learn... and if you don't get her help, she'll learn the hard way.
2006-09-13 19:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by xindependent_1989x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly you can't make your wife quit pot she has to want to quit for herself thats the way it goes with addicts..you can't help those who don't want to help themselves!! If you are a smoker as well regardless of wether it bothers you to have pot or not it will not make things any easier on your wife if she is going to quit....having the constant reminder in her face will increase the chances of her relapsing. It sounds as though she is not ready to quit therefore you are in a tough predicament. Just be supportive and if that fails then I guess your other option is seperation. Try and quit together..
2006-09-13 19:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by gypsywife2b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like shes getting addicted to it - be strong and refuse to get it for her and stop being bullied into smoking it if you dont want to - take control of the situation before it controls you and your wife.
2006-09-13 19:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by kinnoishere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go get it. Then if she gets busted, maybe she'll learn her lesson. It's illegal and psychologically addictive to some people. She may need counseling. Have an intervention. Tell her you will leave her if she doesn't quit. Tell her no more money....so she has to quit. (Or start selling her things). She needs to hit bottom. Sorry, but true. If she won't quit, she isn't ready and no one can help her until she decides to quit. Good luck, Kitty
2006-09-13 19:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, you can not make her stop. Drug users will not quit unless they want to. Maybe the two of you should try some marriage counseling. She may never quit unless something happens in her life to make her want to. Best quote I have heard in regards to this is "you can't help those that don't want help"
2006-09-13 19:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by cam 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes! MOVE ONNN! think of it like this picture yourself on Montel. You know that half of the things that are on that show are stupic common sense things, and you dont even think about it. You see it and your like thats so stupid! durrr now stop and think of yourself drrrrr! its easy move on. You are risking alot getin pulled over or gettn stopped by the police and chuck ching and that aint the sound of money its the sound of a 300 pound door locking you in. Now buy now you are tinking "its not that ezzzzy maugh maugh tear tear" but the bottom line is it is your just eather not all there your self or just need to stop feeling bad for everything in your life. come on man do somthing usefull with your life and move on get a better girlfriend that wont go crazy and will trat you the way tyou desrv. think about it. The power to do so is right in your head unlock it and move the f*** on. hows that for an answere. i hope you dint take this all up the a** but ima tell you just the way it is move on you knew the answee to your one questin for crying out loud.
and its not your responsability to take care of here you have enough taking care of your self. if she cant controol her bad habbits thats on her move on . NEXT
2006-09-13 19:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Stock up on munchies dude and stop fretting! And try being in love again with each other.
2006-09-13 19:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Rich 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is addicted She needs professional help and it would not hurt for you to go too Good luck
2006-09-13 19:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by kmday1130 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋