a few weeks ago i asked the question 'will i lose my job?' after i had to take time off work due to my son being ill. many people said 'get family to look after him', and i'm so glad i didn't listen. my son ended up in hospital with a perferation to his eardrum after a severe infection. he has since got alot better but does now suffer with glue ear.
thank you however to everyone who responded, i really appreciated many of the comments, and i my boss soon realised that my son really was i'll. just out of interest, has anyone else ever experienced this kind of problem where a boss is very unreasonable when your problem is genuine / serious?
2006-09-13 12:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
slartiblartfast... if your not 'qualified to answer questions' then don't bother, but dont be rude and offensive.
2006-09-13 12:24:55 · update #1
A few years ago I was working with a company, at a job I loved, and I became violently ill. I was to the point that I couldn't breathe even though I was having to check out customers. Even with a doctor's excuse I was forced to go into work and cover other people's shifts. Out of 3 cashiers I was the only one who came in. If I hadn't I would have been fired like the others were. It was clear to the managers that I wasn't faking. I ended up in the hospital with walking pnuemonia and I was at risk of my lungs collapsing. They felt really bad when they found out how serious my problem was (considering they were trying to get me to come in to work from the hospital), but that's it. No appology or anything. I eventually learned that had I been fired there are laws against it. If you have verifiable proof of Dr visits you cannot be fired. It is absolutely against the law where I was living.
2006-09-13 13:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by akr_86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that your son was so ill, and that you had additional stress with an unreasonal boss. Thank God he is on the mend now. Yeah, we've all had unreasonable bosses. I have worked myself into ill health for many a company, demonstrated willing, competence and hard work time and again, only to have them be unsympathetic when I've fallen ill in an exhausted heap. I now have severe ME and haven't been able to work in five years, feel like calling them all up and saying "see, I told you I was ill!" However, as an employer, which I later became, you have to think about cover for the ill person's position. If you have previously demonstrated a good work record, they should be sympathetic to you at such a time. If you are someone who is always taking time off, you can't really blame them for being less understanding and questioning your committment. However, by the tone of your mail, you sound like someone who works hard and doesn't take time off lightly.
My ex-boyfriend was injured (not too badly physically) in the July bombings last year. He had worked for his company for 6 years, not a day off in the first three years, but a few bouts here and there in the following three. Unfortunately he had a breakdown due to severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and his previously caring bosses just didn't get it. It took me many lengthy phone calls and quite a few letters from the experts and professionals to get them to understand. He had nearly a year off work, but was nearly sacked in the end because he kept appearing on telly on the news and documentaries about the attacks and anything related to it. I kept telling him, his employers wouldn't understand that he couldn't handle getting into work but could appear on four different channels doing live interviews every few weeks. They cut his salary, not by much, and he was soon back at work, though not full time.
2006-09-13 19:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tefi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I have, and some bosses find it hard to understand that 1) we do not all have family who can help and 2) we work to live (and enhance our families life chances) not live to work..
Family esp children have to come first, the media and many people would condemn a woman not being there for their sick child and yet the same people don't have the understanding when you need to take time off for them.. you did the right thing and under the discrimination law and equal ops policies he would have been stuffed if he tried to do anything to your career or employment.. hope your son is feeling better now.
2006-09-13 19:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,my boss thinks that I am lying,but I am telling the truth, I don't care though if I lose my job as long as I can attend family matters, it is our right to be on leave whenever there are important matters to attend to. bec. of this attitude I am never promoted but for strait one year and 6 months awarded for employee of the month. I feel sad oftentimes But I don't regret what I did that day..
2006-09-13 19:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
bosses are out 4 one thing "productivity" im a mom too and ive been there but let someone in their family get ill and they will take off for weeks and still get paid, somebody just dont care , maybe they havent been in our shoes before, remember we love our family just like they do , im here 4 u honey glad your child making out okay, smile!
2006-09-13 19:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh God yes. My wife and I worked for the same employer. They sent her a letter threatening disciplinary action because she missed one day at work. ONE DAY! She was busy galavanting to the doctors to be told she had cancer. It took me all my self-control to refrain from going in to personnel and killing the lot of them, and I'm not joking.
2006-09-13 19:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Elle
Do yourself a favor.
Just remember that this site is just a bit of fun.
Do you honestly think that professional psychiatrists or whatever give free advice?
You are just asking a bunch of weirdos most of the time - and yes - that includes me.
I am not qualified to answer questions about your sons illness and nor is anybody else, including doctors, without seeing the boy in person.
Okay? Now lets all keep it light and ask questions about sex or something. It seems to be most peoples favorite topic - probably because they don't get any!
2006-09-13 19:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Hi,
I missed your original question about your son. I am glad he is feeling better. We are all thinking of him and if he is old enough, please pass on our best wishes to him.
I hope you will keep us all informed as to his progress and I hope he is better soon.
2006-09-13 19:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by footynutguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋