NO - i'm lying. I can't hate him cuz I still feel for him. Not sure if it's love or just plain "caring" . Anyway.....just what must I do...I need to get him out of my mind and quick. We separated 3 weeks ago.
2006-09-13 11:44:56 · 17 answers · asked by billy82jean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The opposite of love isn't hate; it's indifference. So if you still feel for him it's not unusual.
What you need to do is get on with your life in any way possible. Keep busy, find something new to do, or reconnect with old friends. I know it sounds corny but the addage of time heals all wounds is true. You'll find another person to love and hopefully it will be the one for all time!
2006-09-13 11:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by carpathianne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though it's the most complicated thing you can do at this time, you must be rid of him. Don't tell yourself, oh he doesn't care about me and oh if I'd have just done or not done this or that.... Stop. Look around your personal areas, at work, your room, or at school, gather every piece of him. Pictures, his shirt, that ticket stub from your first movie... everything. Do not attempt communication with him, or respond to his attempts to you. Set this pile of stuff on your bed, or where you go to comfort yourself, and cry, moan, shovel ice cream and wallow in it for three days. ONLY 3 DAYS, NO MORE. After that three days, buy yourself some new lingerie or shoes, or just treat yourself by doing your toe nails or a makeover. Something that makes you feel better about you. Go to a social gathering spot and meet some new people. Once the 3 days have gone by, no more 'what's his name', period.
The truest statement ever spoken is, "It's not you, it's me". His reasons for breaking it off more than likely have nothing to really do with you. And if you're just chasing something you can't have then those three days should be full of all the ugly things you can remember about him. He's not that great a catch if he's still swimming.
Just keep yourself occupied and boost your self esteem.
2006-09-13 19:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by censored_4_tv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf and I broke up a month and a half ago and it still hurts sometimes. We are still in love with each other, but he has some major issues going on and he has to work them out alone. He seems to be able to not care that we are not together which bugs me sometimes b/c I hurt a lot. I've gotten better, I don't cry anymore, but i miss him like crazy.
Just try and get on with your life it won't make him come back if you are sad. Just know that everything happens for a reason.
2006-09-13 18:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get him out of your mind then obviously you still like him. And while men often show a lot less emotion than women, they still do in fact have feelings. I would go up and talk casually to him, and keep on doing that until you find out if he still likes you. You'll know what to do from there.
Good luck sweetie :)
2006-09-13 18:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Penelope L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really want to get over him you need to totally cut him off. No contact or anything, go out with your mates and have a good time. If your still in contact it will b a lot harder especially if u still love him. Out of sight out of mind! But it prob will take a while, good luck
2006-09-13 18:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Leesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is so hard to get over someone you care. The good thing is that your relation was over just three weeks ago. I got over my ex 1 year ago. If the reason why u guys broke up was good then be strong and you'll get over him. good luck
2006-09-13 18:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. As the wiser than me ones said: it takes time to wear them out of our system. The most puzzling for me is that I can't work up hate, resentment or even irritation for the way he treated me --I am seeing a therapist to try and make some sense of it.
2006-09-13 18:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Freya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why u cant get over him because he is fine......if it were the other way around, you'd be fine. Move on, replace him and you will get over him quick. Just think of how many other hot guys who would love to have you !
2006-09-13 18:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's love,don't miss out on your soul mate.Go get him! If it's just pain know that it was a reason for you guys braking up and there's a better man out there for you.
2006-09-13 18:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Brianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy and focused on other projects. Why waste your time dwelling on your ex? It's done and over with, so you need to move on.
2006-09-13 18:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋