i have a problem with overreacting....?

Question

I know for a fact that in the past i got mad about stuff that i shouldn't have...i blew things out of proportion and got mad over silly things which is one reason my ex didnt want to be with me anymore...but i need to fix my little problem. I get mad quite a lot and i just really need to stop because its making people annoyed with me. I just over react a lot and over analyze stuff...and its not good. HELP

Answer 1

i'd say, work on improving yourself. also, have an Open Mind. learn more and observe, instead of getting upset. try to focus on the Positive, Healthy, Good things in life, and let the Negative things go. if u can find a way to fix things w/o getting mad, it will do you, and ur friends and family, much good.

perhaps there is something in ur past that has caused u to handle things in such a negative fashion. u gotta work hard on changing the way you think, in order to React in a more positive, proactive way. something that will benefit yours and ur friends' relationships. maybe when u start getting upset, u can write in a journal all the things u want to say. then read it over 5 minutes later, and see if there's anything there that is Biased, Judgemental, Empty, Unimportant, Not Valid for Angry Behavior... be able to look back separately and see if u are over reacting or not.

good luck, and try to let ur emotions out in a Positive way. don't worry, tomorrow is alwasy another day. as long as u are trying to change, your friends and family will love you.

Answer 2

Being aware of the problem is the first step, Good for you, but it is not the only step.... You need to be aware of how your mind and body react when you get mad, this way you can be aware when it starts and you can squash those feelings before they get out of control.

If you find that you can not do this on your own, seek professional help, there is no shame in that, a lot of people need help in that area.

Good luck, and stay calm.

Answer 3

So you like the drama huh? What does your anger get you - figure that out and you can work on it. Does fighting with people give you a rush or do you just like the interaction - like a kid acting up for attention even if that attention isn't pleasant. Try humor - like laughing at yourself. Also ignore - ignore - ignore.

Answer 4

Ask yourself, "Will this matter in 1 year?" If the answer is no, then you should not worry over it. Most problems in life will answer no to that question. You should only focus on things that you can control and not things that you can't.

Answer 5

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). A short term dynamic therapy that works very fast. It can get to the root of the issue.

www.bodytalksystem.com

Answer 6

SERENITY NOW! Shouting that usually works for me. Seriously though, therapy sounds like it might be a good thing for you. Sometimes people can't handle their problems alone, and this sounds like something that would be difficult to tackle by yourself. Good luck.

Answer 7

Well when you start to get annoyed with someone or something just wait to say something and think is it actually worth it? is it actually something thats worth getting mad over? or is it just a way to blow off steam? just wait think and STOP try it out, it should work

Answer 8

it is hard- but when your getting angry or overreacting just think posotive thoughts and hold onto possitive thoughts instead of all the negative, and look at things from different points of view b4 reacting, good luck

Answer 9

hey i tend to have the same problem, i know a lot of girls have this...mainly because it might be insecurities that cause us to overreact...dont worry about little things...talk to your partner before jumping to any conclusions. i am trying to get over this too.

Answer 10

Seek professional help