Okay so I had a huge crush on this one boy who was like 14 years older then me. Then I started thinking it won't ever work out. The same night after I decided I shouldn't like him anymore. I though to myself like as a joke "I might be lesbian" but then I got to think about it. I DON'T have any crushes on girls, I don't look at girls, I don't think of fantasys with girls. But it is still in my mind Iand I can't get it out. So does anyone now how I can tell myself to not think that. I did have a major obsession w/ this boy like always thaught of him and like made plans. But now I can't do it with anyone else. I do however go to a school where there are 10 boys that are mean or not attractive. So I don't know if anyone else has experienced this. Or maybe it is just a phase of not having a major crush on a guy. PLEASE HELP! I am becoming depressed!
2006-09-13 11:34:11 · 10 answers · asked by Becca C 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
No, you are not a lesbian. You just scared yourself into considering it. It is not uncommon for teens to be confused about their sexuality. But you are not gay.
2006-09-13 11:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear girl,
Please don't think you're a lesbian because you've come to your senses and realize that being obsessed with someone 14 years older than yourself wasn't healthy.
Just because you are currently not attracted to someone of the opposite sex, doesn't mean you you won't be in the future.
Don't rush being "in love" or being in a relationship. Learn to love yourself for who you are and what you have to offer the world around you. Don't complicate your life with "needing" to be in a relationship. Have fun being you and doing the things that bring you peace of mind.
If you're seriously depressed..get help. There's too much life to live to let yourself get depressed over a thought life you can take control over.
Just an FYI....you might consider looking into a "relationship" with God through His Son Jesus Christ who died so that you could have eternal peace. His love is extravagant and far better than anything you can imagine.
Take heart....life moves forward.
2006-09-13 18:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by GrandmaamylovesJesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, you are wondering if you are a lesbian because you are having an anxiety attack over thinking that a crush on a boy won't work out?
Sweetheart, you need to get engaged in something outside of yourself. Volunteer at an elderly care center or some other community service center. You are worrying yourself over something that doesn't make sense because you are wrapped up inside yourself.
Try serving others and see what the results are.
2006-09-13 18:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by flightsimulator58 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No sweetie, you are not a lesbian, so don't stress out about it.
I'm not a doctor, but you sound depressed to me. I think you should tell your parents so they can take you to the doctor. If you don't want to tell them, then take yourself to the local health dept. so you can figure out if you are depressed, or if your hormones are imbalanced, or if it is just a "low spot" you are going through.
Life is hard, but there is help out there. Hook up with some kids from your local youth group and ask how they handle situations like this.
And also, don't forget to pray. God cares about all your struggles, believe it or not. Just talk to Him.
Hang in there.
2006-09-13 18:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goodness,no. if the reason a woman was a lesbian was becauseof the lack of men we found attractive, i guess mankin would cease to exsist-especially in school! lol i never dated anyone at school-way too immature.don`t worry so much ,enjoy being footloose &FANCYFREE
2006-09-13 18:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are going to grow up to be a stalker.
I think you are too boy crazy to be a lesbian. Bi-curious maybe, but not lesbian.
2006-09-13 18:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by charice266 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No but since your questioning it you may be Bi-curious. Don't be depressed you just need time to think about who you are and what you want in life, your not the only person to have gone through this. You can explore any kind of feelings you have. Good luck.
2006-09-13 18:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Flightsim is right. Don't worry about it, you're fine. What you are experiencing is 'post womanhood psychosis'.
2006-09-13 18:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Few Find It 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it don't sound like ur gay
2006-09-13 18:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-09-13 18:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by waplambadoobatawhopbamboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋