I did have my own flat which I lived in Alone for 14 months..I kept in clean and fresh...but in was lonely living there....What I have done is moved back home to mom...my mom lives in a 6 bedroom house alone (she has friends and relatives that visit) my dad died in 1999, I don't have any Bros/Sisters (only child)... I pay my mom rent she cooks/cleans....Is this Ok....will this make me getting a date...a lot harder...and what do women think of guys moving back home...I've got 4 bedrooms to fill up with junk..plus the whole attic....
2006-09-13 11:33:38 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are classed as a mummy's boy.I am totally honest.It puts women off.
2006-09-13 14:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No problem. You lived on your own, were self sufficient, but lonely, anybody, girl or guy who can't understand that probably hasn't lived on their own (without constant invasion of friends) for any length of time. You are also providing comfort and companionship for your mum, which she is bound to need since your dad died. You are not leeching off of her, you are paying her rent. Whether you work or not though, do give her a hand with the cooking, shopping or cleaning once in a while, it will mean so much to her, and you know you can do it as you have done it for yourself, also, any date will be impressed that you do so. Moving home doesn't have to reduce you to the child in a relationship, you are now capable of being the man in the house, so talk to your mom and find out where you can help. Maybe she needs help in other areas, fixing things, or sorting through bills, or decorating. Also find out how she feels about the prospect of you dating someone. Also, don't fill the bedrooms with junk, ask her if you can have one of them for your own personal den, you will both still need some space from each other, just don't hibernate in it and leave her all alone.
2006-09-13 11:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the reasoning. I am moving home to save money and wait for my condo. I don't want to sign a lease b/c I don't know when my condo will be ready.
If you were just living with your mom b/c you were lazy, didn't have a job, didn't want to do anything, then it would be bad. But if it's for reasons of being lonely tell the girls that. Tell them your mom was lonely and didn't like living alone so you thought you'd move back to help out.
I think it's sweet.
2006-09-13 11:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i see know problem with getting a date, personal details will come out only if the relationship moves forward(you can keep honest without volunteering information on living arrangements) sounds like a large home so privacy shouldn't be a problem if you get lucky, it also depends on how your mom feels about sleepovers, you know what i mean. if your looking for long term though,(marriage, etc.) you got to have your own place. women do look for a confident, independent, self supportive man. like i said, i think your o.k. with a date, but long term won't happen with mom down stairs. luck
2006-09-13 11:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by cycodad69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes sense fiscally and I'm sure she is glad to have your company. Also, it's nice to have a man around the house. Because of the economy, a lot of kids are returning home to live with parents. You are part of the Boomerang Generation -- I think that's what they call it.
You should be able to sock away a large amount for down payment in case you want to invest later.
2006-09-13 11:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lynda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all sounds good, but how much do you pay your mom 4 maid service.. and why can't you help clean and cook ? and no it shouldn't hurt your dating, thats a big house 2 get lost in.. be good to your mom.. take her out 2 dinner sometime, and you pay the check : )
2006-09-13 11:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not a bad deal if you ask me, however i would say if you dont get a property soon that you atleast rent it is going to get harder and harder to afford it in the future, but its not too cool to move back in with your mum, but you could always say to the girl you moved back in cause your mum was so lonely or you x took everything that you owned!!!
2006-09-13 11:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by damien r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my now husband was still living with his parents when we met...he was 31...personally it was no turn off at all.
I had my own place so we tended to hang about there on the weekends.
I think its a great way to save some money to put towards your future.
2006-09-13 11:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋