catholic church,i tell him, so we could receive God's blessings, and he is asking " so why people that are married by the catholic church still lie and cheat if they are blessed by the church" . he is being very stubborn and hardheaded, how can i make him understand that i just want our relationship to be blessed? btw,he is catholic and I was raised by Jehovah Witnesses, but the Jehovah’s wont marry us cuz we are NOT "Witnesses" and I'm actually fine with the catholic church marring me bcuz the God we believe in is the same.
I hope i made sense :-) help me with my hardheaded boyfriend!
2006-09-13 11:14:52 · 16 answers · asked by melinda 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Whoa!!!
Honey, you need to read your bible itself. Seems that you have jumped into the fire from the frying pan.
Its not about the place where you worship. God blesses those that belong to him, not a building or a service.
Your marriage will be blessed if in your heart you have accepted Jesus Christ as your PERSONAL lord and savior. There are no other requirements.
God blesses those who believe in him no matter where they are or where they get married.
It is not about the building or the worship style, its about your heart and what is inside it as far as faith and belief.
Your boyfriend is right about one thing here. Being blessed by anyone does not automatically give you perfection. We will still sin, because we have sin nature and human flesh is weak to temptation. Perfection does not exist for us as long as we still breathe air on this earth.
2006-09-13 11:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that just because some people stray in their marriage reflects nothing on the church, in fact the church is against it completely. Besides people in all religions cheat on their spouse, sad but true. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel blessed by your God, and if you are so into your religious convictions why would he ever even compare your relationship with that of another couple that didn't work out? Maybe he has something against the catholic church or had a bad experience with it? If thats the case there are plenty of non-denomination churches where you can still get "gods blessing." And for the person who said go agnostic, seriously shut up. I am agnostic too but im not about to go preaching my views because being agnostic is about not knowing if there is a god or not right, so if you don't know then how could you ever advise someone whats "right."
Anyways congrats on getting married..I hope you have a fantastic life together!
2006-09-13 18:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by K C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not Catholic and your Catholic boyfriend is obviously not a practicing Catholic. DO NOT get married in a Catholic Church. The Catholic Church is not simply a place to get married. There are requirements for a Catholic marriage that you currently do not meet. If a priest takes the time to give you and your boyfriend a proper interview, he will refuse to marry you in the church as you describe your situation. If you don't want a civil ceremony, find a non-denominational church.
Additionally you say boyfriend not fiance. Are you sure his reluctance is not for other reasons? Since you are willing to marry in his religion and he still objects, I suspect you might have many future problems.
2006-09-13 18:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a valid point. Why should it matter where you get married, so long as you both love and respect each other?
Does it really matter that much to you that your wedding be in a church (that you don't even belong to, if I understand what you said)? Have you asked him the reasons he doesn't wish to get married in a Catholic Church? Where does he want to get married?
You two need to talk about what sort of wedding you want to have. You have to reach a conclusion together. Maybe he wants to get married outside, or some place that is more meaningful to him than a Catholic Church?
2006-09-13 18:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by WatersMoon110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to get married in a Catholic church, then forcing the issue will poison your marriage. When two people get married, I believe they should have whatever ceremony that means the most to BOTH of them. My wife and I had a handfasting ceremony performed by a Pagan priestess, and was largely non-religious. We have been married for seven years now, and it seems like only yesterday.
Besides, too many people make the mistake of forcing their wedding day to be the BEST day of their marriage, when in reality it needs to simply be a new beginning for both of you.
2006-09-13 18:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to him first that that happens in all marriages, because people turn away from God, and more towards materialistic ideals and possesions. Also remind him that as a catholic , he is to be married in a catholic church or it is null and void and the children will be concidered illegitamite
2006-09-13 18:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, tell him not to worry about 'what everybody else is doing' and focus on his wife to be. Its important to you, and he needs to see that. Everyone needs all the blessing they can get for a marriage. If there's trouble now, look out!
2006-09-13 18:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Namaste 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound a bit too young to get married anyway.
2006-09-13 19:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's not your fault other catholics don't take their vows seriously, but that you are, and he shouldn't rule it out because of other people, he should do it because of what it means to you, and if he's catholic, it should mean something to him too.
2006-09-13 18:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by jade 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like both of you need to do a little compromising.
2006-09-13 18:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋