relationship with the mother of his children. we have been together for a year now and we believe that we are a perfect match. is the love that he has for me never going to be the same as he did with his kid's mom?
2006-09-13 11:09:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay away from him. Find someone who's clean.
2006-09-13 11:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe this guy has three children with the moms and wasn't in a steady relationship. He sounds like a love em and leave them kind of guy = player. I would get out of this relationship. He sounds like he gets woman pregnant and then moves on to the next woman.
2006-09-13 18:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Krissy,
I absolutely hate when people rain on my parade, so I hope that you don't feel rained on when I ask you why, if he wasn't capable of sustaining even a "steady relationship" with this other woman, let alone a marriage, that you would be interested in having him love you at *any* level?
File me under the live-and-learn category, but I've never met a man who was incapable of loving *magically* turn into Prince Charming because he met the right woman.
This isn't about you being lovable. This is about him and his ability to be the kind of man you want/need.
When you're ready for better, you'll go find it. Good luck!
2006-09-13 18:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by writerchick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Krissy,
Read everything that everyone has posted to you about this question. All of us feel the same:
1. He is too old for you.
2. He could not maintain a relationship with a woman for a long period of time, but he had - not one, not two, but THREE kids with her. Please!! He's lying to you about what went on there. This guy should be putting his energy into that relationship, not yours. He has KIDS there and they come FIRST.
3. You deserve better....you come with a LOT less BAGGAGE.
4. Other things to ask yourself: Would you honestly want to raise 3 kids? How would you deal with the ex? Do you want to constantly give up things because he owes child support for those kids? Had you thought of that??
Good luck, start with a better bet. They're out there!! :)
2006-09-13 18:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in your situation right now and there's a reason why he doesn't have a steady relationship w/ their mothers. He doesn't want to, and he's not ready. He's a player girl. Sorry. Run, before you end up pregnant w/ another one of his babies and still waiting on him to grow up almost 4 years later. From personal experience.....
2006-09-13 18:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by crystalglass_33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you really believe him, do you trust him. Do you really love him. Does he seem different with you. The most telling would be the small interactions that would or wouldn't be similar. Do his kids favor one parent over the other. You've known him for a year, you and the ex- would know the difference or similarity in his character.
2006-09-13 18:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its possible. If you guys are in a "steady relationship" then I would say you are already ahead of the game!
2006-09-13 18:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aye. Agreed. Not to sound like a jerk, but anything that has 'prefect match' on it is something to be wary of.
2006-09-13 18:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating a guy with kids is hard because you will never be number one. You are pretty much in 4Th or 5Th on the scale.
2006-09-13 18:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
keep putting out and you ll be another mom on his list , stop putting out and see if he answers that question for you ... good luck
2006-09-13 18:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by porcelain65711 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋