I've been dating this guy for about two month. I am 26 he is 31. He has never been married and has no kids. He feels that he isn't relationship type. But he is a great guy and I'm lost on why he hasn't been picked up already. He has told me about his past with women and how he feels that he doesn't have much luck with them and that is why he feels he isn't "Relationship Material". So this make's him put up this gaurd because he has been hurt some much. He limits the time he spends with me just so he can't get TO close to me. I want more, but in all honesty I'm willing to wait because I know this might sound alittle stupid but I think that this man could be the one for me. He has a lot of great quality's that I want in a man. But I don't want to date someone who can't put there gaurd down, willing to take a risk on love. I have been in a simuiliar positions and I dont' want to wait around and end up getting hurt all over again.
Any idea's of what to do????
2006-09-13 10:57:43 · 5 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have thought that maybe he isn't just that into me. But I really don't feel that is the case with him. He plans all of our dates and he wants to see me. It's not just me that wants to see him. So I feel like that says something.
2006-09-13 11:04:36 · update #1
hey
I will try to be of some help but not from your point of view but his. I was exactly like this guy you were dating. I always had a guard up and never let anyone get close to me coz i was afraid of getting hurt. I would always maintain a sort of distance from ppl even with friends. I let only very few ppl get close to me ( I could cont them on one hand) It wasnt that i didnt have friends ..i was very popular just never let anyone matter much to me. But then this guy came into my life first as a friend then he wanted more ...I told him i wasnt ready and i dont want to be in a relationship ...but well he wouldnt give up on me. He had more faith in me than i did!! I used to do the same things ur guy does to you... but well my guy wouldnt let go. And i am currently in a relationship with him. I am not saying its perfect coz i still have a lot of insecurities to deal with but ....he is the best thing that happened to me. And all coz he had faith in me and didnt give up on me!!
I hope this has helped you in some way
Goodluck
2006-09-13 11:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by nice_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he's just not that into you. It might not be you personally, maybe he ISN'T the relationship type. If he's so damaged, you are much better off finding someone else.
There are too many good people in the world to waste your time with someone who can not/will not reciprocate.
Chances are though, he will suddenly become the 'relationship type' when he meets someone he really connects with.
Move on.
2006-09-13 18:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by AtlBoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if hes worth it to take a chance on. How would you feel if you broke up and then saw him with someone else. Would it make you jealous? If so you should take the chance on him.
2006-09-13 18:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking him to open up, try doing it first and seeing if he will repay you in kind. People are much more likely to make themselves vulnerable if you have allowed yourself to be first.
2006-09-13 18:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just show him eventually he will let his gaurd down.
2006-09-13 18:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by so_fast420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋