I like my boyfriend alot and i care deeply for him, but i don't love him. He says he loves me and i feel bad sometimes when i don't say it back. How can i make him understand love doesn't come as easily for me, w/o breaking his heart? also if i haven't fallen in love with him already will it ever happen?
2006-09-13 10:55:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love takes time and there is no standard/rules or a time frame for when it will happen. I am like you. It takes me a while before I fall for someone. I care for them yes but, to give my heart completely to someone takes time. Don't feel bad about not being where your boyfriend is yet. You will get there in your own time. Like the Supremes said, "You can't Hurry Love." When he asks, just say you are on your way.
2006-09-13 11:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-13 10:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Spaghetti MY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dating a year and you are not in love with him then you need to move on. Just be honest and tell him you care for him deeply but do not have romantic feelings for him.
2006-09-13 10:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love shouldnt be forced and since its been a year you may need more time because everyone is different. Why dont you just explain that to him and tell him that your feelings arent as developed as his are and that if he wants to still work things out that he has to understand and take things slow. Unless you really don't like him anymore just tell him the truth.
2006-09-13 10:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand your personal definitions of "Care deeply for him", "love him", and "in love with him"
Discuss it with him. What does he mean when he says that he loves you?
in love generally means thhinking abouth the person constantly when you are not with them, wanting to be with them always, and not wanting to be without them. If he was away on a trip for a few days or weeks with no contact with you or little contact would you really really really miss him?
2006-09-13 10:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Steve P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If after a year of dating I think you should have more feelings for him than you do. Cant you just tell him that you arent ready to say those three little words just yet? If you think you arent IN LOVE with him you should let him know and let him decide if he wants to keep going on with this relationship. It isnt fair to either one of you. Best of luck
2006-09-13 10:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is natural. Don't force it. You could date the wrong person for decades and even say that you love them, but you don't. There are a lot of one sided marriages from people marrying someone that they did not love.
2006-09-13 10:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Adam Ant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it may happen. I mean, if love doesn't come easily for you and you know that, then you shouldn't doubt yourself.
All you have to do is be honest with your boyfriend and explain to him what love means to you and how hard it is to say it. If he loves you like he says, he'll understand, and work even harder to help you fall in love with him.
2006-09-13 10:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there is no time limit on love. although, if after a year you still don't feel those same feelings for him as he does for you, maybe it's time to move on. maybe he just isn't the " one' for you or maybe you are just not capable of loving another person in that sense. maybe you need some therapy to figure out what is stopping you from allowing yourself to love -if that is the case.
2006-09-13 10:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by not4u_72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U KNOW U CAN LOVE SOMEONE AN NOT B IN LOVE WITH THEM....tell him you love him as a person but you just not ready to b in love just yet. i mean you cant rush true love. you kno?!??! if that's hte way you feel, thats just how you feel....but dont leave him hangin out there thinking you dont love him at all......but if you not ready to b inlove, make sure u clarify to him you just love him an are not inlove with him. then ask him if he knows the difference. if he doesnt, explain it to him.....an if he does, tell him to tell you what he thinks the differences are so there will b no misunderstandings.......
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-13 11:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋