My ex fiance cant get it through his head I dont want him back. He has been iming me. Telling me he respects where I stand on my beliefs of not wanting to be with him. Yet he still talks about "us" when we were together. Things ended between us a year ago! What am I to do?? What would you do?
2006-09-13 10:37:22 · 16 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He knows how I feel. Yet he just cant seem to accept it.
2006-09-13 10:40:27 · update #1
When you decided to end things with him, it didn't mean you stopped caring about him, but just that you didn't want a romantic relationship with him. I know that's not news to you. It's more of a set up for what I'm going to say though. People on the recieving end of the 'break up' often confuse you simply caring for them as you still having 'feelings' for them. I'm guessing that shortly after you two broke up you decided to do the whole 'friend' thing. Well I'm sure it was rough at first and you assumed it would get better. Well in a year's time it hasn't got better so it's best to just distance yourself from him as much as you can without being mean to him. I'm not saying 'never' talk to him. I'm just saying make it so that sometimes there are weeks where you two don't talk. Not just every once in a while, but often. This will help get you off his mind. Maybe he'll be less preoccupied with you enough to actually go out and meet someone that will help him completely get over you? If all else fails you may end up having to tell him that the 'friendship' isn't working either and that you'd like him to leave you alone for a while. A long while.
2006-09-13 10:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When he brings up the past I would say "yes those were great times" then tell him that now you both have to focus on the future. Then finish by telling the future does not include him in it for more a friendship. If that don't work then change your email addy... lol
2006-09-13 17:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just still holding on to what would have been and hoping it still can be. If you're sure you don't want him back then tell him and tell him he needs to move on. But, don't string him along. Move on yourself and maybe he'll get the point. Then again, I don't know your situation...why wouldn't you want a guy that would still fight for you over a year later?!?!
2006-09-13 17:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by justjerra_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont answer his im s ...ignore him. Change your phone number if hes still calling you. Dont give him an inkling that you even want to talk to him at all. Hes got to eventually get the hint if you just ignore him totally. block him from gettin through to your ims too. its really simple if you are serious about not wanting to talk to him.
2006-09-13 17:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is not a women but the way you look in that pic i would be doing allot of thinking of how and why i lost such a wonderful person in my life.And take that in the next relationship and learn from my mistakes
2006-09-13 17:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by stevens_monroe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, this guy needs a reality check. If he hasn't gotten it by now he's never going to get it. If he keeps contacting you, don't respond to him. If you do he just might think that maybe you MIGHT be interested in giving the relationship another try which clearly, you are not.
2006-09-13 17:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him know that I'm not comfortable with his constant contact and references to "us" as a couple. Tell him that if he doesn't stop, you will break all contact with him. In fact, that sounds like the best thing to do - at least for 6 months.
2006-09-13 17:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IGNORE him, you have your own life, LIVE IT let him be, let him wast his time but don't waste your's. You have made it very clear to him so just leave it at that, he will or should get the hint if he doesn't get a response from you.
2006-09-13 17:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you,ve hired a detective and he is now under investigation for harrassment of u ,and u r thinking of taking him to court if he don't leave u alone
2006-09-13 17:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him and if it continues get a restraining order. Change you numbers and be careful.
2006-09-13 17:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋