PLZ!!... i need advice!!!?

Question

ive started cutting again and its been 4 months since i cut last and ive gone then to now and havent cut even if i was upset, stressed out, or angry. but today i cut with out thinking because i was so angry about everything today. people at school who dont even know meare spredding rumors to ruin me, im not popular, i dont even talk to those people. and thier the reason i cant get guy that i like to be my date for homecoming or a b/f in general. there saying that im a dike and sh.it like that even though i had a b/f 4 months ago that i really liked and the relationship almost lasted 7 months.
what can i do to make them stop and how the hell can i keep myself under control to not cut again?
the reason i put this under this catagory is because i want to know how to get rid of this rumor and how to get a b/f at my schoolo who wont believe anything they say.

and im only 15 so no nasty suff ok

Answer 1

Knock it off....you're 15... nothing is that important right now that you should cut....go cry for attention somewhere else and stop being a baby.

Answer 2

Let me ask you this, what do you do when you have cut ...the build up might finally release, but it doesn't help you to solve the problem or problems does it. You seriously need to see a counsellor who can help guide you through this impossible time of life called being a teenager. How to get rid of a rumor, in all honesty there is not much you can do, except rise above it. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Trust me one day you will be a woman who is succefull with friends and yes even a boyfriend who understands you ...think about that thought and hold on to it because you can make it happen if you really want it to.

Why does it have to be a bf from your school....why not find someone who has known you forever surely there is a male neighbour or friend somewhere that knows you really well ask them to take you to the dance, when people see you walk in in some senses it will do two things shut people up which then helps resolve the other issue about guys at school.

Answer 3

Darlin' Girl, you are in need of new friends. The ones you are close to are not helping you to be all that God intended you to be. Get with your Mom and Dad. Tell them what's going on with the rumors and so forth. Talk things over with your counsellor at school as well. The more times you talk with someone who does not have their own interests involved, the more you will learn how to handle your situation.

The things you can do immediately are:
1. Be sure to leave home looking as nice as possible. Get a new hair do. I know...it's a surface thing, but people in your age group are very influenced by what you look like. If you look as though you are having a bad day, there are always other kids who will try to make it worse. If you look like you are having a good day, they will want to be around you so that their day will be good, too.

2. NEVER let them know if they have hurt you. This means no crying and give back as good as you get. Think of some things to say back to people who are ugly to you. They should not be mean, but they should let them know that they did not hurt you and you think they are silly, unimportant people. Makes them feel small and they will leave you alone. A good one word comeback is simply, "WHATEVER!!" and then just laugh like they said the stupidest thing you ever heard. Walk off shaking your head.

I'm sure that if you put your mind to it, you can think of other things. These are just to get you started. You can e-mail me if you want other pointers. Would be glad to help.

Hugs to ya, hon!!

Answer 4

I know how it is to not be popular. Ok, you are 15...so can i ask you, why do u "need" a boyfriend? Boys are trouble, trust me. All they do is break your heart. What I would do, and did. Is just focus on your school years right now b/c that is REALLY important. You have MANY years ahead of you for you to find a great guy. And stop cutting yourself please.....that doesn't do anything good and only makes nasty scars on your body. If you have a bad day right your thoughts and feelings in a journal, get angry at the paper not your body. If you ever need anyone to talk to I'm here. You can email me. I'm a 20 year old female who lives in South Dakota.
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Answer 5

you need to get help. is there a school counselor you can talk to and vent all these things? or maybe just a friend? you must not hurt yourself over things that people say, especially since they are really irrelevant in your life. they're not friends or family. you give them way too much importance and power and control over your life when you let what they say affect you. you know the truth, the people you care about and who matters to you know the truth. that should be enough. dont ruin your life because of them. those who bully are really the weak ones. i bet they travel in a posse, because if they are by themselves, they would be feeling vulnerable, and there's nobody to show off to. take this situation as just another hurdle, another challenge that you must overcome. it, too, will pass. stay focused on your goals. make something of yourself and when that 10 yr reunion comes around, im sure you would be on even grounds and maybe that will be the reckoning. pray for guidance and strength. that never hurts. good luck.

Answer 6

Have you ever stopped and thought about what you are doing? While you are messing with your life, these people are sleeping at night. They don't even care baby girl! What is the point? In the end, your just hurting yourself. You really need to find another way to express your pain. We all have days when we wonder why the hell were here.

Some of the most famous and glorified people in this world were treated like sh*t. Think of Eminem, Pink even Hallie Berry had her awkward stage. What if they had done what you are doing?Don't believe the hype baby girl. You are worth it. Trouble doesn't last always, and if you really want to spite these people, fight to reach the top, and recognize how special you really are starting today:}

Answer 7

Well sweetie, I have a 15 yr old brother too and this the advice I would give. You can't walk around being mad at the world because of some high drama ****. You prove everyone of those people oh are starting the **** with you. Hold your head up high and let no one bring you done. I have no doubt that you are not attractive. keep you head high. Try talking to you mother or dad. sibling let everything out. Dont let if out by cutting yourself. There's other ways to free yourself. I wish you luck sweetie!

Answer 8

People who are out to hurt other, are the ones that need help. As you get older and learn to respect and love your self, others will too. I remember being that age and feeling somewhat like that. It is not not only you who feels like they are being singled out by the crowd. The way to get rid of the rumor is easier said than done, just ignore dont let it bother you. You make your self the better person. I dont know if there is any girl or woman who could tell you the right answer about the boy situation because we are all wondering the same thing.

Answer 9

I would consider getting help with the cutting problem....don't be embarrased, many people do it, still, don't think it is easy to stop, because every single time you will go back to the same thing again....about the school, rumors and boyfriend....think about this....you are 15,you have your whole life ahead of you, don't worry about what other people think, worry about what you think of yourself, at this age people are really ignorant and they like to take advantage of thoase who appear weak to them....so come on, look at yourself in the mirror, you are a beautiful person, so start feeling like one, just by ignoring the rumors, being yourself and hanging out with your friends, don't look for anything, a guy will find you, and most important, he'll like you for you, trust me. About the cutting thing....when you get angry, depressed, stressed or whatever, why don't you try writing what you feel down on a piece of paper and then taking it outside and burn it....watch how it burns and let the wind take everything you feel....your are just a girl, and you have to start living life because you only have one chance, don't wasted it doing harm on yourself or worrying about what others say or think about you....those people won't ever chance, and honestly, next time you hear someone saying something about you... why don't you try, go up to them and critice something about them, their hair, pimples, braces, glasses, last relationship, anything, even the way the walk.....that way they won't be expecting it and everyone will see you are not just letting them run of their mouths about you.....BELIEVE in yourself and then you will be able to have everything you want....if you ever need to talk and let it out or need advice...write me over the e-mail, here in Yahoo Answers you can contact me when you view my profile...if I can I'll even call you....there are good people out there, don't sweat everything, there is many more years to come.

Answer 10

The first thing you need to figure out is that what other people say means nothing. It doesn't change you or who you are so why worry about it? This is the don't let other people make their crap yours theory. When people say things about you its about the stuff in their heads, their issues, their insecurities, their prejudices...it has nothing to do with you at all. As you said they don't even know you so why are you worrying about it? My life became sooooo much easier once I figured it out. The best way I can explain it is by using the example of racism...someone decides that they hate someone based strictly on the color of their skin....does that issue belong to the person doing the hating or the one being hated? Its the one doing the hating of course and that doesn't change who the one being hated is at all. I hope that makes sense to you and it is the same in every situation whether its about race, or 'being a dike'. Are they worth it? Ok, so people were saying these things...did it change who you are? Did you magically become a lesbian because some idiot at school said you were? No, of course not so it truly had NO meaning whatsoever. These things only have as much power over you as YOU allow them to have!! And unfortunately you have chosen to give them a lot of power. You were willing to hurt yourself over it and that doesn't make any sense does it?

The second thing to figure out is that high school seems like the entire world right now but trust me the day you walk out that door for the last time it is just completely gone and forgotten. Who was popular, who was not, who was a cheerleader who said what about who means NOTHING. The playing field is level and all that high school crap those people think is soooo important suddenly becomes meaningless..the people who let their lives revolve around their high school status are about to be really lost in the real world. Its like being the prettiest girl in backwater town, usa....when she goes to california she's suddenly not so pretty there anymore, there are thousands of girls that beat her in that category hands down so now who is she? Same with the popular girls in high school, in the real world they are nobody just like everyone else. Try putting I was popular in high school on your resume and see how far it gets you in life. Honestly, the point is getting an education and deciding whether or not to be the one taking their lexus in to get it fixed or to be the one fixing it. Get the value there is out of it....don't focus on the trivial. Any boy in high school is destined to become nothing but a distant memory and is certainly NOT worth this, or anything like this.

Third, you need to get some help for the cutting problem. You need to get some help from someone who can teach you alternative ways of dealing with stress and anxiety...its possible and you can learn that but you have to decide you are worth it and that you want to. I think you should.

Good luck to you, I hope this helped a little.

Answer 11

Ill Tell you what i have a sister that always was trying to cut her self and she was the same way. I know what you are going through as a person. It is scary in high school but you have to look a lot further than that. Dont you want to be the first Female president you need to think bigger i am 22 now and i never made fun of anyone at my school and i was one of the more popular people. I think you have a chance in life and dont let materialistic people ruin your life for you. You just have to beleave in yourself that you can do better.