I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month now, but we have been friends for almost 2 years. A couple of days ago he said, "I love you". It was totally out of the blue and it caught me so off guard that I didn't even know what to say. It made me feel good and I thought it was sweet, but I feel like the 'I love you' was said way too soon. I'm not sure whether to believe that he really loves me. I didn't respond by telling him that I love him too, because I am not to that point yet, but I can see myself loving him in due time. I don't really believe that he is telling me that he loves me to get me into bed with him, because he knows that I want to wait for that sort of thing. I just don't know whether or not to believe that he really loves me. My boyfriend is 23 and he has been in several relationships so I feel like he should know what love feels like, but I am just uncertain if he really meant what he said. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
2006-09-13 09:34:12 · 31 answers · asked by kristy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think we all fall in love in our own time and that there is never a time that is too soon to say you love someone. You two have known each other for 2 years and there is a good chance that he has had very strong feelings for you for a long time So I think this is just the result of those years plus the additional dating now.
2006-09-13 09:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he's developed feelings for you over time. He's probably tried to date you but was unsure of how to let you know. If you've known this guy that long, chances are he means it. I completely understand if you think its too soon. It is really soon for him to say that. Take your time, babe. Don't say it right off the bat, only say it when you feel it because if you do, those words won't mean that much to you. May be your his first true love...?
2006-09-13 09:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Miranda M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf (now 9 years later my husband) said "I love you" on the very first date! I answered "I love being with you." Then I tried to forget he said it. He didn't say it again for about 6 months.
Since we've been married we've discussed that night. He's says it just slipped out b/c he was soooooo infatuated with me. & that he wanted to take it back as soon as he said it. He says he was glad that I didn't make a big deal about the whole "L" world.
I would take your relationship the same way. He is probably so happy to be with you that it just slipped out. If he says it a few more times than confront him about the meaning of love.
2006-09-13 09:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could have meant it because after all, he did know you for a couple of years prior to you starting the relationship. He may have fallen in love with you when you were just friends.
2006-09-13 09:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Minina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were friends for 2 years he may have loved you for a while. even if it's not romantic love but a friend love - it's probably genuine.
You can tell him that since you two are together in a relationship now you're waiting until you're IN LOVE with him to say it, and you want him to make sure he really means it romantically before he says it.
2006-09-13 09:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been friends for two years, maybe he has grown an undercover crush on you since. Finally you are dating and he feels and knows who you really are now. If you want this to be a meaningful relationship I would snag him and talk to him. Tell him how you feel. It's not fair for one person to say "I love you" and not receive a reply.
2006-09-13 09:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by spacecommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you've been dating for only a month but he knows you for 2 yrs. I'm sure he has loved you a long time ago. I would believe him until you have reason not to.
2006-09-13 09:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he meant it, that's great. If he didn't, that's ok. No need to stress yourself about this. The relationship is still new. He may just be flowing with his emotions which at this point is quite unstable. Give it some time, if he means it, he'll say it again sooner than later.
2006-09-13 09:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 2 years is long enough for a friend to have developed deeper feelings. If you like him too, well jump right in and see what happens.
2006-09-13 09:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so, just because you don't feel a certain way you can't disregard his feelings. i think you should pay attention to his actions. also, if he has been your friend for that long i think that your relationship is at a different level than it would be if this was some guy you met at the club. you should be able to tell when he is being sincere...so use your discretion.
2006-09-13 09:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by KodeNmKidzNxtDoor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋