I lived with my cousin for year. We were really close and I felt that he was the older brother that I always wanted. Then he got a new girlfriend and now they are married with a year old kid. Besides the age difference,(He's 23 and I'm 13)we were good friends and we saw each other every day. Now I am in a completely different town and it is around 2 years later. I haven't seen him in around seven months.I am at the point where I am crying myself to sleep and thinking that it will never be the same.HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-13 09:25:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
How far away is this town? Perhaps you could arrange to go visit him with your parent(s) or uncle/aunt. If you need a reason, there are birthdays, holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc), and probably some random things as well. I'd suggest calling him or e-mailing, saying that you were thinking about him and miss him and see if maybe you could go over for the weekend, babysit and let him and his wife have a night out... (I know you'd want to go see him, but you'd still be able to spend time with him... but most people with a kid need some time off, if that makes sense.)
Sometimes family members grow apart, especially with extended family. I haven't seen my "local" cousin since I moved in with my fiance and I missed the birth of his second child. I wasn't particularly close with my cousin, though, because there was an even larger age gap than with yours.
2006-09-13 09:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes change is hard to deal with. At 13 your still young, and at an age where your body is going through changes. You could always call, e-mail. or write a letter to him and tell him you miss him. Sometimes when you have a little one its hard to do a lot of other things. ASk him maybe if you could come and stay with him one weekend. That way you get to know his wife, and the baby better. I just hope you dont feel like she pulled him away from you. Thats not the case. Maybe he doesnt realize that he hasnt talked much to you. So, call him sometime and let him know in a nice way that you miss spendning time with him. You never know. It may work.
2006-09-13 16:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he will always be your cousin, what more do you want. I mean now that he is married and have a kid, he might be a different person as far as being busy, but nothing will change who you are for him.
2006-09-13 18:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lady-bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wound say that in a way he is not quality because when you get married you will have more responsibility its very hard to have children in young age like him for example so don’t worry . I think you are very young and you should not depend your self to any one because no one is better then your self, I know friendship is a very sweet relation and every one try to keep it but you know life changes people changes and you can never be sure to keep it so long and strong, and I know its hard for you to forget his friendship but dear after sometimes you will learn to live with out him. you know why I am saying this because I have tried too, you know I had a friend we were so close to each other and we were in same class and had a lot fun with each other, we could live with out seeing each other every day, when he became sick and couldn’t com to school I went to visit him because he was like my brother and best friend, we didn’t lived together but we were in same school and same town. You know what happed I leaved the place where I lived with my family and came to Europe in the start it was very hard to me to fit in the new country and try new culture and I was very nerves to left him alone and I didn’t had any new friends so it was very very hard in one year it was like dumb hard, but you when I start new school and start to adopt the new culture and new language I just forgot all my sadness and I became my self i learnt to live with out my best friend and I have got new friends and best friends, you cant belief that I didn’t contact him in 3 years you know its unbelievable that i called him after 3 years and talked to him. I always remember him but not so depended on him ofcours you can’t forget your best friend but you learn to enjoy life with out him, and your young you have a long life to spent try to be happy dear. Hope it helps you.
2006-09-13 17:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by nice_ girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how that can be. You should call him sometime and just express your emotions cause if you don't let him kno how you feel then he won't understand. Just tell him whats wrong and he'll listen and both of you will come to a conclusion :)
shelbz
2006-09-13 16:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by *Robert & Kalika's Momma* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is only your cousin... I hope.. you should make more friends and get this cousin fantasy out of your head. I hope you are not having any "things" with him....
All you need is companion and friendship!
2006-09-13 16:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it won't be the SAME as life is continually changing.
You could make it better than before by calling him and being involved with him his wife and child.
How far away are they?
2006-09-13 16:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 13 growing up. Are you still with family?
2006-09-13 16:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by The real questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somedays you get a boyfriend then you will understand the situatiion. Good lucks
2006-09-13 17:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by tellmetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call . write. which ever . try to keep in contact, it is not fair to you that he never stayed in contact with you. so you be the better person and contact him.
2006-09-13 16:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋