I went out on what I suppose this girl considered a date almost 2 weeks ago whlist, i only considered it a getting to know you session. When she tried to kiss me a few times that night i rejected her advances, as i told her i like her a lot & she told me the same but i want to make sure im doing this for the right reasons. However, since then I treid to ask her out 3 times & each time i get "im busy" remark. I still get the ocassional email off her asking how i am & the late night texts in particular over the weekend if she knows im going to be out with my mates, however this week its been few & far between. Have i blow my chance with this girl by saying its all gone too quick or do i wait, take some time away & see what happens or find a new woman. Please help as I now know that I really do like this girl.
2006-09-13 09:24:20 · 30 answers · asked by michaelbcfc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think her ego is abit dented! i think she will come round though perhaps text her and tell her why your rejected her advcances and she may understand. If she dosen't its her loss. she should be thankful a lot of guys probably would have tried more than that on a first date. good luck hope it works out.
2006-09-14 04:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have blew your chance with her but you might be able to fix it. The fact that she is sending you e-mails suggest to me that she obviously is thinking about you. You should just bite the bullet and tell her you like her and would like to take her out again. Just explain that your sorry for being a pratt(sorry) on your first date but that you didn't want to rush into anything. If she says again she's busy, then say this is the last and final time you'll be asking. Also tell her not to e-mail you again, i know its cruel but in a way she's keeping you hanging on and giving you hope that you will get together. Who knows maybe she will end up coming running after you. If it doesn't work out remember there is plenty more fish in the sea.
2006-09-13 09:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by LOULOU37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt like her when she was trying to kiss you on the first date and now you like her when it looks like shes moving on.
Typical male.
You only want what it looks like you cant have.
But im gonna help you anyway.
If you really do like her then call her and tell her you make a huge mistake tell her that you are sorry if you seemed like an *** the first time you went out and you were only afraid of running her off if you kissed her on the first date, ask her out when she says im busy so okay how about tomorrow, and keep going till you get a day time and place.
2006-09-13 09:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hurt her feelings and she is probably feeling a little embarrassed. I would write her an email and tell her what you told us. Tell her that you really do like her, that you didn't want to move to fast and wanted to get to know each other.
She is playing the I am not that interested game. If she was totally uninterested she would not text or call you, if you want to play the game back, avoid her for a while and the tables will turn once again.
But since personally I dont think those games should be played, talk to her. If she says she is not interested, then you know its time to move on.
2006-09-13 09:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first Question if you liked her why did you blow her off?? She gave you 3 chances, so would you still want to go out with someone that did that to you. If she did consider you would have to make for what you did. But I bet your mouth would be tried when you got done making up and I don't mean kissing.
2006-09-13 09:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by BABYWHITE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may never have gone out with someone for a get to know you date. She may have felt rejected when you asked her to slow down. I think you are very smart in doing that. Be casual in your dealings with her and wait a week or so then ask her out again. She must have some interest in you if she keeps e-mailing you.
2006-09-13 09:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the guts to call her and tell her you need to see her as soon as possible.....and when you get to see her, or if you don't get to see her then tel her over the phone, about how you feel. Be honest, tell her that you really like her, and that you loved to go out with her. but feel rejected because she's always giving you an excuse.....tell her you really enjoy her company and you simply really like her. If she talks to you about why you rejected her kisses, be honest, tell her you never wanted to make her feel like you were rejecting her, on the contrary, you were trying to be extra respectful and careful because you liked her so much that you didn't want to rush things with her.....just be yourself, but look at yourself in the mirror and simply get the guts to call her up....now, before it is too late....Good Luck ;)
2006-09-13 09:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have hurt and embarrassed her. She maybe did lay it on a bit thick though, I know if I tried to kiss a guy and he rejected me I wouldnt try it again, I'd wait for him to do it! I think you just need to chat to her and tell her that you like her. Take her out for a meal or something, and for gods sake KISS her this time!!
2006-09-13 09:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay what happened is you offended her by not kissing her. A kiss would be innocent now if you said she was trying to go to bed with you that is different. I think you should explain to her how you are & what kind of morals you have when dating & she would probably understand alot better.
2006-09-13 09:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her! i think us ladyz arent used to men not being "just after one thing" explain to her how u feel, if u like her n she likes u then u probably aint blown it! she might just b afraid of bein rejected by u again. try makin the first move this time, if u no where she works get her some flowers delivered. i know that wud make me smile.
2006-09-13 09:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by nutmeg696 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋