She's going through that famous thing of ''confused emotions'', but she said the only things causing it are being back in school around new ppl and guys again and the fact i've last longer than any relationship she's ever had, this past week I tried to make a move to kiss her and well she told me I'd have to wait...and so I said okay I'll be patient and wait till your ready no matter how long it takes, but do any of you have any advice from personal experiences?
2006-09-13 09:15:15 · 15 answers · asked by Joey M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do--though you likely don't want to hear it but here goes.
If you were not emotionally involved with her you would see as clearly as I in your summary that she is telling you that she no longer wants to be exclusive to you (she said the only things causing it are being back in school around new ppl and guys again).
As difficult as it is to do, my sage advice after many years of living, lots of dating and everything in between is to move on yourself. People always want more of what they think they can't have. The best you can hope is that, after some time, she comes to decide that you were in fact the person she wants to be with and comes back to chase you. I always MUCH preferred being the one to move on rather than the one being told to move on.
The funny part is, I'll bet you find that you develop new interests and new friends that put your whole outlook in a different perspective. In the end---unless you are married, no woman who says (either directly or indirectly in your case) they don't want to be together is worth trying to convince otherwise. You will end up driving her nuts and unfulfilled yourself.
Take the high road and give her the nicest most sincere thanks for the time you spent together and go have fun with your buddies for a few months.
Good luck
2006-09-13 09:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ceroulious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,I'd say, don't pressurize your gf or hurry her to take a decision.it might confuse her and she might take a wrong decision.just act as u do normally and as u've said be patient,don't b hasty.girls do take long to decide but usually the decisions they take are absolutely from the heart.so just trust her.if u don't a misunderstanding would be created between you two.and anyway if she doesn't want to stay with u , you can't do anything.all u can do for now is wait for her decision.
2006-09-13 09:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by elle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be losing intrest in you pal, but believe me its nothing new as a teenager, its sink or swim and you have a choice to drown over a bit of conflict or swim to the land on the other side and try to make things better, or move on.
2006-09-13 09:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude...dont give her space....right now she is making her decision if she still wants to date you or not....show her that you are worth it! show her how much you need her (even if you might not) and show her that you are the best man out there for her. Its a critical time because she is being tempted by other men at the school obviously and she is just so confused. :) take her out of her confusion and let her know how things should be. you and her. GL!
2006-09-13 09:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Listen up! Im tellin ya..this works. Its actually just reverse physchology..
Im a 23 yr old female, and ive gone through it over and over again. and man does it suck.
Play hard to get. I know you love her, and care about her so much, but be distint.
Think about yourself. Tell her your going out with the guys tonight youll call her when you get home..
Act almost as if you dont care..she'll be like.."huh"..and want you back. Im tellin ya, it works. :0) Good luck
2006-09-13 09:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's losing interest in you. It doesn't sound good I think you should just move on. If she breaks up with you it's probaby cuz she found someone else. Good LUck!
2006-09-13 09:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her space and show her you are capable of giving her that space. We all go through different things, and I've been through this before, its probably just a phase
2006-09-13 09:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by I Love my boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not try anymore. You should never have to try. If she wanted you then she would not have mixed emotions. You either want someone or you don't.
2006-09-13 09:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back is not an option, She is moving on.
2006-09-13 09:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry my friend it doesn't seem like she wants to be with you any more, it's okay though because as they say, there are many fish in the sea. :)
2006-09-13 09:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋