ok i come home from school (im in high school) and my stepdad's like did you go upstairs and im like "no" so he was like come with me and we went up stairs to my room and i see all my clothes from the dirty clothes hamper on my floor. he tells me some of my clothes arent dirty so from now on i will have to wash your clothes because you dont know the differnence between dirty and clen! wtf im like man f**k u u are not my dad. but here is my question: why is he going threw my stuff!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-13 09:13:26 · 19 answers · asked by ♥la chica♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds to me like you need to talk to him. I know he is your step-dad but there is OBVIOUSLY a reason he's doing this, maybe he just worries about you! Is there a reason he thinks he needs to go through your stuff? Maybe something happened or your actions are saying that he needs to keep tabs on you?? Anyway, I would sit down with him calmly and rationally to find out why he is doing this. Tell him that you are fine doing your laundry and that if you DO mix dirty and clean clothes together then it is YOUR fault and not his; he is not the one who may end up wearing dirty clothes... YOUR are so you should take responsibility for that possibility. Also inform your mom, you don't need to tattle-tale on him but just let her know that it bothers you that anyone would go through your clothes, not that you have anything to hide necessarily but that it still upsets you... maybe she can say something to him.
A few ways you can stop this:
1. check your pockets out before you put any clothes in the hamper.
2. make sure ALL dirty clothes gets put into the hamper and when its full DO YOUR LAUNDRY!!! don't leave any dirty clothes on the floor that someone might mistake as clean, or feel like rummaging thru the pockets.
3. as soon as clothes are out of the dryer hang them up so no one has to guess what is clean and what is dirty (even you!).
I hope this helps, don't stress about it too much... once everyone realizes that they won't find anything important or exciting in your laundry hamper, they will most likely stop looking in there and leave your stuff alone.
2006-09-13 09:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by lilhottiebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the Biggest question. What the heck is he doing??? Hopefully nothing gross. If he is looking for something I would think he would ask your mother to go thru your dirty clothes. I would not be happy at all having my dad, stepdad or any one looking thru my hamper. I think you might want to chat with your mother regarding this issue.
2006-09-13 16:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by JUNONNKI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he aclean freak. As long as he is not doing your laundry I would tell your mom he is digging in the place you keep your dirty underware and you would like it if he stayed the hell out of your room then ask "what would you two do if I was going through your laundry and airing it out for everyone to see" i am betting he will stay out of your room.
2006-09-13 16:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by SassyFras85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom, I am a mom of three teens I still don't go thur their things but if I thought that they had something to hide I would... The tree of you need to talk and set boundaries, but if you are in high school do your own laundry..
2006-09-13 16:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, like, I dunno, but, like, maybe it is your like, ya know, attiude? Just kidding. That is wierd. I can't think of a single reason for him to go thru your hamper. Maybe he is a pervert? But, telling him to FU isn't going to solve the problem, nor is it going to make him view you as an adult. Maybe try to ask - calmly - with your mom around, what he was doing or what was he trying to do? Good Luck!
2006-09-13 16:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likely went through ur stuff cuz ur under his roof, not fair I know... not only that he feels he has to put u in ur place because its his home. Its just a power trip.. talk to ur mom about it... he has no right even if it is his place. He sounds like a jerk to me.
2006-09-14 00:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by sandrawiltzen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your mom comes home, you need to have a conversation with her. If she allows him to have the control of the home, you need to ask to speak with her in private. Let her know how you feel.
2006-09-13 16:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by smart mouth 4 u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your mother and ask her why she is allowing him to invade your space. He has no right to your room unless you are in harms way. He is being cheap and nosy.
2006-09-13 16:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he pays the bills, he can rule. Plus, you should do your own laundry. Anyone in high school should have some responsibility..
2006-09-13 16:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by aggravatingprick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have got to give him credit really he is cleaning up giving you disaplin he is only trying to help your mum
but yes you are right he is not your dad put just give a little respest yea
2006-09-13 16:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by yates1239 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋