my friend commited sucide.?

Question

this morning, my was found dead. She had OD on rynotauss her death is my fault because i ended up going to ST. Vincents after swalowing 12 tylenols. After that I ended up going to a phyc ward for 1 week, and the an outpaitent program for 2 months. Once out of the hositial, we began to communicte again. We went out to mcdonalds, talked on the phone. but she never seemed the same. Everytime i would see her, she would allways seem like she was in a rut. I asked her wats wrong on mutiple occasions but she said nothing. eventualy she stoped wanting to go places, talk on the phone ect. and when school statred it was apparent she was depressed, but wouldet admit it. So at 12:00pm, after not showing up at school, and not responding to her dads phone calls (he was out of town), the police arived and she was found dead in her bed with a pail next to her full of vomit, and her note under her pillow. She said i should forget in it. WHat should i do

Her death is my fault cause i had told her about my atmpted sucied and she tried to convince me not to do it but she couldent. Now im back on that same boat i was on in may. Another reason i know its my falt is because she was allway reltivly happy and uselly told me about thing going on in her life, good or bad. So i was the bad thing in her life she didnt tell me about. what should i do to ease this missory.

Answer 1

None of this is your fault. You need to talk to a qualified person to help you through this difficult time.

My thoughts are with you...

Answer 2

First of all 12 Tylenol isn't enough to do any permanent damage; you're lucky. I hope the psych helped you out. As for your friend's suicide; that's very unfortunate but not your fault. If she committed suicide because you swallowed 12 tylenol then she had deeper issues than the tylenol. First of all why was she depressed? what was her home life like etc... These things should've been addressed by a professional. You are not to blame. There was obviously some deep rooted pain she was dealing with emotionally and psychologically. May God comfort you and her family. Keep your chin up and a positive attitude.

Answer 3

You are not to blame for your friends death. Every person has a mind of their own, however much they are influenced by other people. Your friend had a mental illness and if not treated or undetected this is what unfortunetly sometimes happens. It was your friends decision to make at the end of the day. It will take a long time for you to get over such a sad loss but you must move on and in time things will get better for you. I really hope hope everything works out for you, take care.

Answer 4

1st of all i would like to give my most sincere condolences for your lost. Losing a friend is such a sad and horrible thing, i cannot imagine what you are going through. I would like to say that her death is NOT your fault. If u make it that it is, you will only be in more pain. Think of it that she is in a better place now, a place where she wont be depressed or miserable, and that she has finally set herself free. I do not believe in suicide whatso ever but we cant change what happens. Some people feel like the only real answer is to take their own lives. Its horrible and tragic, but are we going to sit around and sulk and be miserable the rest of our lives? no. we cannot change what happened, however we can live our lives in her memory. think about the great times you had together, think about all the wonderful and happy memories, and i believe that will put u in a better place, as well as put ur friend in a peaceful place where she can finally be happy

all the best, take care

Answer 5

Well, dealing with suicide is never easy. For, one you will never forget, or forget her. I can tell you first hand that it gets easier as time goes on. One of my friends completed suicide two days after Christmas in 2005. What exactly though, are you suppose to forget? I really havent grasped that part. Since you, yourself tried, and are still here thats no reaon to blame yourself. It could have been several things, even though there truly is no reason for taking your own life. I think you need someone to talk to right now. I would talk to your parents, they should know right now how to heal you cope. I really hope you get through this, and I am truly sorry for the loss of your friend. It's never easy. Good luck

Answer 6

I grew up in foster homes, group homes, and have even been in some children's psychiatric hospitals. One of my friends hung herself from her bunk bed when she was 16. I was lost. We were in a group home at the time. You just need to not blame yourself. Some people really can't be helped just by talking. She could have had serious medical problems, clinical depression or something. Please seek counseling, because yahoo answers can't help you get through this difficult time. Believe me.

You can only be held responsible for yourself. You obviously have emotional problems of your own and dealing with hsomeone else's emotions was just... not what you needed then or now. Good luck and I'm very sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

First of all, grieve for your friend. Her death is not your fault. She had more problems than you could have helped her with. You were right in going to St. Vincent's to get help for yourself. There are several stages of grieving. It is okay to be angry with her for killing herself. Most people feel awkward to be angry with someone who is gone from this life, but it is very normal and healthy to feel that emotion. Then you will feel very depressed about the situation. That is normal too. Just remember the good times you had together in the past. You were very important to her but when your thinking gets that clouded that you off yourself, u just don't think to tell your friends how much they mean to you. Find a good church in your area and hook up with the youth pastor there and tell him what has happened. He will pray with you and hook you up with some people your age to help you through this difficult time. God never gives us anything greater than what he will go through us with, He will never leave you!

Answer 8

This may seem cruel but suicide is selfish and cowards way out of dealing with problems and I know first hand. Its not your fault its hers. She was weak and took the easy way out. No matter what you did it was ultimately her decision. I am sorry for your loss and I know it will take some time to get over it however life goes on.
God Bless you and her family.

Answer 9

First of all it is not your fault, at least you tried to see what was wrong and you were being a friend to her. That is what counts. The people that commit suicide are usually the ones who never mention it to anyone. The ones that mention it usually never do it. I think that you did the right thing just by trying to be her friend.

Answer 10

More then likely she looked up to you and reliezed with you trying to take ur life that if you were to go she woul dhave nothing maybe you should have suggested the psych ward to her but you are gonna be stuck with a million maybes to questions you will nbever be able to answer without her something happened while you were gone that sparked something very depressing in her but it is not ur fault you have no control over what one person will do in their life sry for your loss and do what you have to to help yourself with coping with it

Answer 11

It is not your fault. None of us has that kind of power of another human being. Just go see your own psychiatrist to deal with it so that you don't do anything stupid again like swallowing Tylenol. Did you know that they can kill you for real? At the very least they can kill your kidneys and you'll have to be on dialysis.