why do I feel grateful for having been with this person even though it's over. i don't long for anyone else and i don't understand why people always say that you can keep someone in your heart forever but find another person to move on with.
why is that when no one else can ever replace him and the memories keep me feeling loved.
thanks.
2006-09-13 09:06:50 · 15 answers · asked by Fuzzy_lop 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yeah but i can't be with someone i dont love very passionately. mission impossible. that's why i said what's typed above. thanks for your comments though.
2006-09-13 09:26:23 · update #1
just relax and give it time . . .
2006-09-13 09:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We come into this world alone and we leave this world alone, finding someone to love and share the journey along the way is what life is all about. Many people live their entire life and never know what it is like to truly love and be loved. You have been very lucky, and I'm a firm believer that once you truly love someone, you will love them for a lifetime; however not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime. It takes time to truly get over a breakup, and it's fine that you don't have the desire to enter into a new relationship right now. I believe you when you say that you think nobody will ever compare to your former love. The truth is, maybe nobody ever will...there are many kinds of love, and you might fall in love again and possibly even marry a man that you feel differently for. You will love your husband I am sure, but maybe not in the same passionate exciting way that you loved your past-boyfriend.A woman's heart is full of secret loves and memorable times, but don't let those memories stop you from experiencing other types of love and relationships. You have a lifetime left to love and be loved...I've been in love three times in my life, and I now am married to my third love. All those relationships were very different, but all very special, and I will love all three until the day I die.
2006-09-13 09:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love him. And you probably wont stop loving him. If you've ever seen the movie Titanic, and how Rose remarries after Jack dies, but she always loves him. You can keep someone in your heart forever, but certain situations or circumstances in life can prevent that relationship from furthering. Its alright to feel this way, and even if it doesn't work out between you two, that love and that relationship between you and that person is wonderful enough to make you grateful for what you had.
2006-09-13 09:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can keep someone in your heart forever and still find another person to move on with because there are many different kinds of love in the world; there are many people we can love and who will love us. . . some loves are better/healthier for us than others. whenever you truly love someone, you learn things about yourself through what you give and what you suffer and the tender memories and experiences you have had. you keep those, along with the love in your heart for that person for helping you to gain this knowledge and experiences of sweetness and affection.
not only do you keep that love and knowledge, but you use it in your actions and feelings for your next love. no one replaces that old love; they are incorporated into a new love. and you shall always have the love and memories of the first love that allowed you/showed you how deeper love feels while you expand your knowledge of yourself and your ability to love.
2006-09-13 09:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by serasotto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not over him. Take your time and if you need more closure, then talk to him. If you're thorougally convinced that he's 'the one' for you, then I suggest that you carry your good feelings for him, but move on with your life anyway. No girl deserves to pine after any guy and if he's 'it' then all things will happen in due time.
P.S. I'm in the same boat as you and this is what I've come up with in the last few days...
2006-09-13 09:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eternal love this is lost in time continuously. basically such as you had your perfect buddy in kinder-backyard, and no different relationship will ever be like your perfect buddy in kinder-backyard ... no different individual will love you the way this individual did. it rather is like a snow flake. The time you spent jointly can by no skill be taken faraway from you. in spite of the fact that, you will no longer bond with this individual interior the destiny. you could commence repairing your heart with the help of taking your eyes faraway from the previous and concentration on the present. take a glance at who you're, who you prefer to be and the thank you to get there. specific, evaluation the previous if it rather is going to help you place this objective, yet do no longer stay interior the previous for too long. basically like in kinder-backyard, you should no longer think of this individual who's on your heart now, you could no longer think of the guy who you will dedicate a life-time of affection, friendship, and hardships to. somebody who shares your comparable values, objectives, and desires with ... who probably can open your mind's eye to alter your desires and make you attain bigger. So, do no longer think of of this with the aid of fact the "end" yet think of of it with the aid of fact the "beginning up"!!!
2016-11-07 06:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by belschner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you still loved him even though he's not around. i think you just hold on to the memories of being together and didn't want to let go.hey we all tend to go back on what we treasure the most in the relationship regardless . i think that this is lost love because it still fresh in your memory but as time goes by thing will changee. your point of view will chang on how you see that relationship. also maybe you refused to let the memory goes.
2006-09-13 09:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by samdrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a great lost love. All my ex's are better off that way. What killed the relationship.. if it wasnt so bad, look him/her up and find out if it was or is, eternal love.
2006-09-13 09:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by Serious Mandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because you don't always leave a person because you don't love them anymore, you can leave for other reasons. And if you don't part enemies, you can still cherish what was special in your relationship when it was good.
2006-09-13 09:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by divaxl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it was a big karmic lesson. Just enjoy it!
2006-09-13 09:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i feel the exact same way and it's hard when people tell you to move on when you know you can't right now
2006-09-13 09:10:26 · answer #11 · answered by flyinghigh006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋