im in love with my former boyfriend.
we were so deeply in love... well at least i was
he told me he loves me and was sooo obsessed with me. he said he would do anything for me and i actually believed him. this man is my whole world. and he left me for another women. slightly beautiful. and some what unique. if he saw me with another handsome man and with my changed look. do u think he would get jealous? and what me back?
please reply .. and keep ur mean comments to urself because i really dont need anything else putting me down.
2006-09-13 09:06:45 · 43 answers · asked by ily_______&?; 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes babe just move on... but i hav tested this thing called reverse psychology... it really works...u can ignore him may be u will end up somewhere... but just waiting wont help.. so u gotta do something.... u neva know when u r ignoring a person he becomes anxious to kow y she is ignoring.. and dis is the game.. he becomes curious and may return back... from den its upto u how to earn him back.. best of luck babe.. take care and u look good.. y the hell he left u ... hapless man...
2006-09-13 09:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by harry d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes we think we're still in love with people because we spent so much time, feelings, etc. that when that is gone and we can't find a duplicate we think we're still in love. Sometimes it takes a while to get over someone, it doesn't necessarily mean you will ever forget them or what you went through, but you eventually need to move on. You can't go forward comparing relationships either because you will ultimately never be happy. Each relationship is different and comes our way for different reasons. Sometimes its just better to be single for a while and let ourselves heal a little bit and actually remember who we were without that person, which isn't abad thing. I think that trying to make someone jealous to get them back, without talking to them first if you seriously want to get back together with thim, will only seem immature and really only cause more problems. Best of wishes to you.
2006-09-13 09:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by MrsDiaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when relationships fall apart, it's what's meant to be. Despite the way we might feel at the time (hurt, depressed, sad, miserable, etc...) Fact is that you're an attractive woman, and have your whole future ahead of you! You've got a good head on your shoulders as well. Stay focused on your school work... you deserve it! In time you'll find the right man.
Don't try to make him jealous. You won't be accomplishing anything productive by doing that. Be the better person. Wish him well with his new relationship, and sulk while with your closest friends, or when he would not even be aware of it. You'll be the one better off as a result!
Good luck!
2006-09-13 09:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest, I say let him go... it sounds like you guys had a "connection" but Love isn't something that makes you go out and be with another guy to get your ex boyfriend jealous... that's just called immaturity.
Love is much deeper and if you don't have the ability to "let him go" (at least for now) than you don't know truly what love is...
Obsession and Love are both very powerful and should not be used lightly. I suggest you let him go and do your own thing for now
2006-09-13 09:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by benh316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts, but listen.. He left you for somebody else. Why would you want him back? If he did it once, he will do it again.
He might get a bit jealous if he saw you with another man, but so what. And if you changed your look to try to impress him, that was the wrong thing to do. You change yourself for you, not anybody else.
Lets say you get him back. Dont you think that you are always going to worry about if he will leave you again? And then you will not trust him, trust is #1 in a relationship. It will not work anyway.
Move on. You will find somebody you dont have to play games with. And if he was so deeply in love, he would not have hurt you on purpose.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 09:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to realize that a persons true feelings are expressed in action and have nothing to do with what they say. EVERYONE experiences what you are going through and only time will heal your wounds. The worst thing you could do is try to make him jealous. The best thing you could do is forget about him because he will NEVER be what you want him to be. I think he may have got what he wanted from you and has moved on and will keep doing the same to every other woman he convinces that he is obsessed with. you are a good looking chick and will have no trouble finding a man who will treat you good. only next time see how he acts instead of listening to what he "says" before falling for him
2006-09-14 12:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would be a fool not to be some what jealous. However, if he has really moved on and loves this other girl his jealousy will not be enough to change his mind. The best thing you can do is focus on yourself and finding someone new. After all, you really shouldn't have to play second fiddle to some other girl. You deserve to be someones first and only choice.
2006-09-13 09:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it's hard now, you don't want a man that will leave you with empty promises. Each day the pain will get a little easier, hang in there. You will find a guy who will treat you right, and not just leave you. Keep yourself busy with your friends, start a new hobby, just stay focused on you.
2006-09-13 09:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like i always say, Love brings you together, and jealously KEEPS you together. If he's your first lover, then it will be difficult to break free of him. I also advise you not to use another guy, cause that's just cruel, unless he's your friend and he's helping you. However, another WOMAN would get your man back faster. My other advice is that there are a million more men where he came from. When you get older, you will understand. good luck.
2006-09-13 09:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by punkdrunkard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby I hate to tell you this but I wouldnt want to go back with a guy who told me all these wonderful things and then found a nother women? Think abotu this, who is to say he wouldnt do it again? and if you got married whos to say he wouldnt do that in your marriage. He is just looking for his next piece of ***. Find a guy that will love you and only you, that he would stop the whole world just to know you are ok. Thats the kind of guy you need
2006-09-13 09:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start living you life and enjoying things for yourself, & if he does see you that him leaving didn't hinder your spirits, and that you don't need him, that usually what makes a guy feel jealous, and in the process you'll move one and when he comes back to you hey you might not want him, hell be hurt like you are, and who cares right, youll be happy without him.
2006-09-13 09:14:43 · answer #11 · answered by Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋