Did you used to be pro-choice and came to pro-life?

Question

Will you share your story with me? Here's mine:

I was pro-choice throughout my youth and high school experience. When I was in college, I went to a debate between a NOW spokeswoman and a woman from an organization of which I had not heard before. At the beginning of the debate, I was still pro-choice. As I listened, I came to realize that the NOW spokeswoman's reasons for abortion were selfish in their nature and the other woman seemed to addressing the needs of the mother in addition to the father and the baby. I can't remember what specific question I asked the NOW spokeswoman, but she apparantly interpreted it as a anti-abortion slanted question and did not answer it at all. Then, she cut me off when I tried to ask again. I may have been pro-choice when I stood up to ask that question in a last attempt to justify my beliefs in the morality of abortion, but I sat down a changed woman. Over time, the more I learned about abortion as I researched, the more convinced I became

To the gentleman who said
"The thing about the abortion debate is that the two sides are arguing entirely unrelated issues. Pro-life people say "abortion is bad". Pro-choice advocates say "The government not should be making personal decisions that like". It's not about abortion. It's about who gets to make the decisions."
I disagree to some extent with you. I agree with you in what pro-choicers are saying about the government. But I would reword the prolifers argument to read: "Abortion kills babies. It is the government's first duty to protect the right to life--it must supercede all other rights."

To the gentleman who said
"The thing about the abortion debate is that the two sides are arguing entirely unrelated issues. Pro-life people say "abortion is bad". Pro-choice advocates say "The government not should be making personal decisions that like". It's not about abortion. It's about who gets to make the decisions."
I disagree to some extent with you. I agree with you in what pro-choicers are saying about the government. But I would reword the prolifers argument to read: "Abortion kills babies. It is the government's first duty to protect the right to life--it must supercede all other rights."

To the person who shared the story of the rape victim and her child:
How sad that in meeting her child, she wished she could have killed her when she "had the chance." I'll keep her and her child in my prayers.

Answer 1

I thought I was pro-life at first. But then someone I worked with told me the story of her aunt who was raped, had the baby and gave it up for adoption. Then, years later, there was a knock at her door, and a woman standing there that had the eyes of a rapist (that was her first thought. that the woman's eyes reminded her of the man that raped her.) It turned out that she was the rapist's baby that she had given up years before. The rapist's daughter hunted the woman down like an animal. It turned into a nightmare for the woman, bad memories flooding back, having to explain to others who this woman was, which meant she had to tell the rape story over and over, which brought back nightmares of the rape, and the woman wouldn't go away (was full of stupid questions like "why do I like the color yellow?" and even AFTER being told about the rapist, kept asking the woman if she knew how she could contact her "father" as thought rape victims keep in touch with their rapists) until the rape victim's son told her off and that she obviously took after her "father" since her rapist father didn't care about the feelings of the woman (victim) either. She said that her aunt said if she knew back then what was going to happen, she would have had an abortion. Just think, had she aborted the baby rapist, she would not have had to re-live the nightmare years later. She had the baby and gave it up thinking the records would be sealed and she would never see her again.

So I am definitely now pro-choice, especially in rape cases.

Edit: Did anyone comprehend that the rapist's daughter was harassing the woman, and did not care that she was putting the woman through hell? Did you not understand that if she had the abortion, she would not have had to go through that? Or do you think it was all peachy-keen to have the nightmares return, to have to tell everyone (neighbors that asked, since the rapist's daughter told anyone that would listen that she was the victim's "daughter" etc) about the rape that she worked so hard to put behind her?

Answer 2

The thing about the abortion debate is that the two sides are arguing entirely unrelated issues. Pro-life people say "abortion is bad". Pro-choice advocates say "The government not should be making personal decisions that like". It's not about abortion. It's about who gets to make the decisions.

Face it -- someone is going to choose. It's either going to be the individual, or it's going to be the majority (through enacted laws). If the majority gets to choose, then they are effectively imposing their belief system -- which is almost always religiously-based -- on everyone.

So, really the entire debate is a matter of either being pro-choice or pro-government control. The concept of reproductive freedoms is not whether you agree with the individual choices being made. It's whether you think the government should have the right to take away and mandate those choices.

Why can't people understand that freedom of choice is not a minority value, even if the majority happens to disagree with the minority's choice?

Answer 3

This stem cell research thing has stirred up a lot of controversy; personally, I've always been pro-life (except in certain rare instances), but with the very real possibility that Roe vs. Wade may be overturned, I can see that many people are changing their minds...I mean, playing Devils Advocate for a minute, if a baby is aborted, and the remains discarded, why shouldn't Scientists have the right/ability to create "good"....I don't know...it's very confusing and contradictory!

Answer 4

I personally feel abortion is not good. BUT! I also feel the state has no right to dictate this issue to what a woman can or cannot do. It is pushing a certain groups religious ideas on others. A woman should have the right to choose.


That is the problem with America now------too many holier than thou Christians trying to control the government.


If abortion is outlawed-it will still happen. It will just be in back rooms, and under harsh conditions. Too many girls and women will die from it. It will be back the way it was before Roe/Wade.

Answer 5

Haven't I answered this question before? I'm almost positive I have.

Anyway, no, I have always been pro-choice. If ending its life will spare the baby a life of pain and suffering because the mother is hooked on drugs, or doesn't want the child, then I believe it is better that way.

My wife is adopted and she hates her real mother (whom she has never met). When her adoptive father suggests (half-jokingly) that she track down her birth mother, she gets very offended. This is a sensitive issue. While I'm certainly glad things worked out as they did (as we likely never would have met had she not been offered up for adoption), I can't see inflicting this kind of emotional pain on a child if it can be prevented.

Answer 6

I was never pro-choice as to the abortions for the sake of convenience, but I did think it was alright in the case of some sort of serious birth defect. The facts of a few "miracle" babies changed that. Their parents were told they either wouldn't live or would be seriously impaired, but they refused abortions. They had perfectly healthy babies, so I guess I figured science wasn't always right.

Answer 7

Yes years ago when I was in school, but after learning about God and realising that life is life however it starts I changed my opinion. A few years later I was pregnant with my second child and at 14 weeks had a miscarriage, I still feel that pain today, that was 12 years ago, to think that people by choice would choose to end a life mortifies me I lost my son/ daughter and I would give anything for that not to have happened.

Answer 8

I wish they could basically call it like it rather is extremely of putting candy euphamisms on it: professional-decision and professional-life. it rather is professional-abortion or anti-abortion, the two for or against. professional-decision eliminates the nasty be conscious "abortion" and is asserting you have the choice to abort or no longer; subsequently spinning a nicer thank you to assert I prefer people's precise for abortion on call for. And whoever invented "professional-life" is putting its very own spin on it. thus far as imposing morality on the full us of a, are not maximum all rules imposing ethical standards on society? Abortion isn't stated interior the Bible, different than inflicting an injury to a pregnant mom the place she loses her newborn. it rather is till now the scientific community practiced it. i don't comprehend how this have been given pinned on the non secular community. in line with danger those of religion ought to easily have extra appropriate morals. i do no longer look at it lots as coming from a non secular view. If it rather is a overdue variety of beginning administration it rather is a mom killing her newborn. all of us began out in that state, it rather is a individual, and that i'm unfavourable to killing it with the aid of fact it rather is invconvenient. in many areas of the international they abort overdue interior the 0.33 trimester while the newborn ought to proceed to exist exterior the womb, utilising partial beginning abortion the place they tear out products of the newborn at a time. The ultrasound video "Silent Scream" confirmed the newborn's mouth circulate extensive open crying at an identical time as being torn to products, helping ban overdue term abortions interior the U.S. What it comes all the way down to is a egocentric mentality that opts for amorality the place people prefer to flee with homicide with the help of a approach or the different asserting it rather is not a human, it rather is a fetus.

Answer 9

Yes

Answer 10

That's great, so long as you apply your beliefs only to yourself, and don't try to force them on others.

Part of being pro-choice is....well, believing that everyone has a choice, even if that means being pro-life.