Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??
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But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?
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I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??
2006-09-13 08:53:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like your in the friend zone....I think she just wants to be friends...mabye when your a little older that might change...good luck
2006-09-13 08:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest, truthful answer?
She needs to know that you will be there for her and be supportive of her, and not expect anything from her. She really, truly, needs you to be a friend right now.
Odds are well above average that she won't ever be interested in you romantically, precisely because of this fear of ruining the friendship. Congratulations; join the millions of men who are frustrated at women in their lives for not seeing the good thing in front of them. The trouble is, a lot of us girls *do* go on the dating scene, and things get awkward, and the only way we can salvage the situation is to completely cut ties with the guy and never talk to him again. It's bad enough when we're just chasing some random crush; imagine how much worse it hurts when we are losing not just the romantic relationship, but friendship and support and years and years of memories.
There's a bunch of stuff I could say here that could give you hope, but I can't say any of it with a clear conscience. I will suggest that you spend a lot of time thinking about whether you really ARE okay with the idea of being "just friends" with this girl. Seriously think about it. And if you aren't, then let her know that. Hey, if you do, maybe she'll date you a couple of times after that once she's done screaming at you, since the friendship is doomed anyway.
2006-09-13 16:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to respect her, be her FRIEND. that means, not liking her. that means, if u like her, u can't really be a close friend anymore.
i know that sounds harsh, but just think of it this way:
a man usually makes the 'first move' right? not always, but usually. so, what u do is let her know that YOU LIKE HER. be proud of your feelings, and let her know. don't be Afraid of rejection. cuz if u want to be a Good, Confident Guy, u can't be afraid of your own feelings. Own up to your feelings. so, let her know. she can either 1) like you, 2) not like you and want NOTHING to do w/ you, or 3) just stay friends.
here's the thing... a girl will let u know what she wants. regardless of it's cuz she's scared, doesn't really matter. u have to respect her choice. if she is scared, why do u want to push her? why do u want to change her mind? u can't KNOW for sure that u won't hurt her in the long run. she needs to learn how to trust, and get into a relationship naturally. so if she says "no", no means no. =T and u have to respect that, even if it hurts.
if a girl LIKES you, most likely she will accept and go out with you. she will let u know she likes u back. she will hang out w/ you, KNOWING that u like her. that lets u know she knows, and she accepts it. then, as things progress and u hold her hand: if she lets u, it's cool. if she says no, or lets go, or is uncomfortable, RESPECT THAT.
same goes for a kiss... if u want to kiss her after knowing her a bit, try to lean in for a kiss. if she lets u, it's cool. if she moves away, or says no, RESPECT THAT.
notice that this all starts w/ the GUY not being afraid of his feelings, and not fearing rejection.
u have to be strong in situations like this. and the more "cool" u are w/ this girl, even tho u liked her in the past, will show her that u are cool w/ being her friend. if u keep bugging her, asking her out, or acting weird, she will think u like her, and will ignore u. so if u truly want to be FRIENDS, let her go out w/ other guys, and don't hold a grudge or constantly bug her to be w/ you. if that means u have to stop being her friend for right now, that's what u have to do. there's nothing wrong w/ liking someone...but if they don't like u back and it makes u sad, find people who make you HAPPY. keep positive, healthy, and happy things around u, and u'll be able to keep an optimistic view on life :)
2006-09-13 16:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both too young for this to even matter. Now that you are starting high school, you will be around much better looking and more mature girls. Why bother with a 13 year old?
2006-09-13 16:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her wishes and be her friend. If it's meant to be it will be. I promise. Some of the best relationships came outta being friends with someone for so long.
2006-09-13 15:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i believe that you need to respect her wishes and just keep on what yall are doin if she likes ya then eventually/hopefully yall can be together. But right now dont let it worry you to much,K
2006-09-13 16:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And she is only 13 she is still a kid and so are you so whats the big hurry.
2006-09-13 16:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give ehr time...if it is meant to be it will happen
2006-09-13 15:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lilmisssassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋