this guy at my church be staring we talk were kind of hi bye friends and he be staring at me like he undressing me wit his eyes its kind of scary and he flirts alot like he gave me hug for a long time for no reason then he hit me and was play fighting
2006-09-13 08:51:56 · 24 answers · asked by Tired_of _the_games 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wre the same age 15
2006-09-13 08:56:10 · update #1
Men always lust after women, its part of the male design and can't be changed. When he flirts he is showing his interest, but that does not mean he wants to rape you.
When men play with each other they test their combat skills, it’s all in the genes. They test each other with punches or mock attacks. This is the sign of an immature male, but of a male that wants to be friendly with you. He just isn’t aware of how to do it with a woman. If you start to date him then you need to tell him that you don’t want to fight him you want to talk with him. Stop the mock attacks quickly and you won’t have problems later.
I don't know how old this guy is, both of you are probably young teenagers. Neither one of you have reached sexual maturity, but simply by being a woman you are ahead of him at this point. He is sending you signals that he wants to be your friend; he would also like to make it go further. How much he gets away with is up to you.
One of our greatest fears is of rejection. It is very difficult for a man to ask a woman out. If a woman asks a man out then some will be embarrassed, but ALL will be secretly relieved. This also puts you in the driver's seat. His body will be ready for sex very soon, but his mind has a way to go yet and you don’t want sex until you are ready. Men can be sexually active as young as 8 years old, but they won’t understand what sex means. A woman knows that sex means a long-term commitment between two mature people. He will learn this eventually, but until then you have to be the mature one.
Try asking him out, nothing major just a bible study group, or a light lunch. He wants to be your friend so he will say yes. How far it goes from there is up to you. If you go to a movie, and do things you like together then you will be dating, and if your parents think you are old enough then that will be a good thing. Your first kiss will be the major milestone in your relationship. You want it to be special and heart felt, but if it is too special then you are giving him a sign that you are sexually interested, even though that may not be your intent. So stay with a peck on the check or hugs until you want to get more involved. He will be willing to go as far as you are, his instincts will tell him to try and go further, that is just his body speaking though, so you have to control the heat in the relationship.
If you ask him out then you will have your answer. If he says yes then he wants to be with you. If he continues to flirt with you then he would like the situation to get more sexual, again it is his body speaking not his mind. So you need to control the heat in a relationship.
If you ask him out and he says no then he isn't interested in you, and the chance of that is pretty slim. He may be too embarrassed to say yes so wait for him (if you want). You have told him that you are interested and left it up to him. You also haven't made a commitment so you are free to do whatever you want. If he continues to punch you or to try and have mock battles with you then he is still too immature to be in a relationship, he can only be a friend.
For more information on how our genes shape our thinking look for my answer: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhrMq_Z_9YPW918ag8jmEyHsy6IX?qid=20060908130830AAz4Xnu (answer #8).
2006-09-13 09:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust
2006-09-13 15:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by M S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon...of course he's flirting with you! By the way, you mentioned this happens @ church - be a good girl & don't lead him on if you're not interested in him. and yes, even "church" boys are full of lust but if you're a "church" girl, then do the right thing & behave! ....another church girl....
2006-09-13 15:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the difference between the two? Like is lust. Lust is like.
2006-09-13 15:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just hasn't sorted out what sort of man he is yet. He fancies you but doesn't have the maturity to come out and say so. He is acting like a 12-year old but be careful, he has the strength of his 15 yrs.
2006-09-13 16:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by XT rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust, lemme tell ya, he wants to get physical.. but you can always ignore him trust me he'll leave you alone eventually.
2006-09-13 15:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you...i think if it was just lust he'd be a little more smooth and forward...not play fighting like in kindergarten
2006-09-13 15:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, this guy is horny.
maybe just talk to your pastor/minister/priest about it. tell him you're uncomfertable (sp?)--this guy could get some counseling or something.
good luck! you shouldn't ever feel funny at church!
2006-09-13 15:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by N/A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well You could ask hime if he's interested in you. Ask him if it is just physical attraction or if he's interested in getting to know you better.
2006-09-13 15:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by candigal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a perv, he's just lusting and wants to see you undressed.
2006-09-13 15:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋