2006-09-13 08:44:12 · 18 answers · asked by shrissa h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start going out and trying to meet other guys. It is essential to have a rebound guy. It was the only thing that got me out of a bad relationship and ready to move on.
2006-09-13 08:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If thats the case what exactly are you getting over? I mean seriously read your question...you aren't thinking this was love were you? Make a list of things you consider loving...what is love made up of to you? Are those things on it? No, of course they aren't so I guess thats not it. What that leaves you with is the IDEA that you had in your head of who you wanted that person to be and what you hoped the two of you could be together. You stop mourning the illusion...start dealing with the reality. You can keep the idea, you can keep the fantasy of what you want something to be, you just have to take his face out of the picture because he obviously wasn't it. The reality is that he's a moron and you are better off without him...keep the fantasy, just look for it in someone else. Whats done is done, you can't have it back so learn the lessons and move forward. If you keep looking back all the time you will obviously live in the past. Good luck.
2006-09-13 15:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way you'll get over him is with time.It's gonna be hard but if you really love someone, no matter how bad they treat you and how much they cost you unfortunately it's still really hard to just forget about them. You should surround yourself with true frinds and guaranteed they'll make you feel better...it will make things at least a little bit easier.
Good Luck,
It can only go up from here.
2006-09-13 15:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by blacktinkerbellstars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with friends, take a class, pick up a hobby. Anything that will get your mind off of it, also I've found that it really helps to get everything out either on paper or in a blog. I wrote a letter to an ex about all the things I loved and hated about him, then sealed it up and hid it in a box in the back of my closet. The point isn't to send it and let him know, it's just an exercise to help rid yourself of those feelings.
2006-09-13 15:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by GoodJob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you just wrote. Then think about it. Did you like that? Probably not.
Go out, have fun, meet new people. You dont have to look for a new guy right away but live your own life.
One day out of the blue, you might meet somebody who is totally what you want, and then you will laugh at yourself for being so stupid before. ( no offense on the stupid thing, just that I was in a situation like that, and I look back and say boy I was dumb!?
Good luck.
2006-09-13 15:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let time heal it for you. Avoid him at all cost. Cut him completely out of your life. The only thing that will ever make that pain go away is time. The same thing happened to me last year and now im happy and over it. I look at him now as a person who was in my life, but glad that he is no longer, because it wasnt healthy. There really is no instant gratification for something like your heart. Just ride it out. You'll be fine. :)
2006-09-13 15:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember all the pain he brought to you and how your sainity could be in question and then thank the lord he is not a part of your life anymore. That's the best way to get over it, unless you enjoyed the misery
2006-09-13 15:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go out and find a guy who completes you and helps restore your sanity.
2006-09-13 15:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep yourself busy. Do other things like, join clubs, sports, go out with friends, and simply try to find another guy, You have to focus on other things so your not so focused on this guy!
2006-09-13 15:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he abuse you verballly , physically, or mentally or emotionally?
Or does he fight to the end and win each situation?
Dear Friend: therapy, therapy, counseling, and by the way stay away from him. If he is TOXIC he wants you to the the TOXICEE.
Get help as soon as you can.
2006-09-13 15:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋