2006-09-13 08:43:41 · 20 answers · asked by AC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That can be a big relationship killer for anyone regardless of past sexual preferences , I'd say a definite no to her question . It doesn't pertain to your relationship unless you yourself feel it does. I know I wouldn't tell nor want to know who my spouse ever slept with. Though she may ask don't ever never ever tell her or your history for sure , she really doesn't want to know. You can tell her about some of your past but leave prior relationships out of the equation or you'll most certainly regret it. Ask yourself honestly , would you really and truly want to know who or the amount of her past sexual partners? The important thing is how you two feel towards one another . If she persists I'd stall out on the marriage issue till she becomes reasonable. Past is past and should be left that way.
2006-09-13 10:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. that's a hard one.. in away the past is the past and ur her future but if u think ur gonna go back to guys then maybe u should, but u'll probably lose her as well.. i see it this way, it would better for her to hear something like that from u then from anyone else..
were u using protection when u had a gay life, do u use protection w/her now? have u been tested for hiv? if u have then i wouldn't tell her..
but if there's a possibility of her finding out then do so and let her decide if she wants to have a relationship w/someone who's bi or not...
2006-09-13 15:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're male here?
Yes; not only for the interest of complete honesty with your potential life-mate, but also because your sexual history can have an effect on her life from here on out. For example, once she's had sex with you, she'll probably never be able to donate blood to the Red Cross ever again.
However, I don't recommend you use the word "gay" when talking about your past. You can refer to them as "same-sex experiences" or "bi-curious experimentation", but "gay" is just the wrong word, because if you're interested in her sexually, you're not gay. At most, you're bisexual, and it really sounds more like you just went through a bi-curious phase and decided it wasn't for you.
2006-09-13 15:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Katie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, honesty is the best policy, Personally I would like to find out -better I hear it from you then from someone else later on and feel betrayed. she may understand about your gay life and keep dating you or she may feel different and call it off. best thing to do is ask her questions about people, what would she do if she was involved with a person who had a gay life before, then you give her you opinion, check and feel first. that's about it.
good luck.
2006-09-13 15:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by whisper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but befor eyou do, get an HIV test. Gay people are found more common with this virus. Be responsible and get a test. Then tell her, and then you can assure with the written test that you are not HIV positive. If that were me, I would not go forward with you only becuz I am not too open minded when it comes to this subject, but maybe she will forgive you.
2006-09-13 15:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be 100% honest because if it was in the past and you assure her that she is the only one for you now then things should be fine. After all you chose her not another man. You can see yourself with her and her with you. THe keys to healthy marriage is communication, honesty and trust. Give her a chance she might suprise you.
2006-09-13 15:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by lovelovelyme23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her now, because our pasts creep up on us in ways we'd never imagine. Also, we all deal with things differently and she may need to work through some issues with that or not. It's best to do that before you get married.
Honesty & Trust are what holds a marriage together.
2006-09-13 15:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Julie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you did befor you met youre Fiancee is none of her Buisness.As for the Gay Life.Ask yourself where and who you rather be with.I know i would not want to know.
2006-09-13 16:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by rhoda c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean you had gay LIFE too? so you were gay for a couple months decided it wouldn't for you, huh?Yeah, tell her just in case you wanna, you know go back to gay LIFE again.
2006-09-13 15:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So now your not gay anymore? alright..cool..whatever works for ya but my suggestion is honesty is the best policy. if you want to build a good strong marriage then you need to be honest with her. if she truly loves you, it won't matter to her. good luck!
2006-09-13 15:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋