2006-09-13 08:33:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Work through your fears, and you will probably find that most of them are not really justified. Fear, not hate, is love's true opposite, and thus each time you fear, you add to the potential of it possibly becoming a reality. For a relationship is like a garden we use to attract and keep a mate, in which we are always planting something, and reaping that which we've grown. When ever we are not planting the fruits of love, which attract, we are planting the weeds of fear, which repel. Which garden do you wish to have?
2006-09-13 08:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Once you've lost him, you'll no longer fear losing him.
Seriously, though, it sounds like you already know there's a problem inside yourself. Are you in a position to talk to a counselor, either through school or work? I had the very same fear you did for years; it stemmed from not ever being told why my parents split up, which for me translated to "it could suddenly up and end without any warning and for no reason at all". But I asked a few questions, and my shrinks gave me a few ideas for coping strategies, and I'm a lot less possessive now than I was when we first met and got engaged.
2006-09-13 15:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't get over that fear. Just enjoy the fact that the two of you are together now, and focus on the present and not the future. Life does not offer guarantees, so enjoy what is has offered you, a man who loves you enough to be with you after 7 and 1/2 years.
2006-09-13 15:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is you don't get over the fear. if you get married then you still fear losing him. But you have to trust that you have the real thing going. You obviously love him to no end so trust that he loves you just as much. He has invested 71/2 years.
2006-09-13 15:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by lovelovelyme23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no guarantees that he will be with you forever, even if you marry him. Maybe you should think about why you feel "addicted". Try to find a life outside of your boyfriend. Go out and have fun. Try not to let your boyfriend be your only source of entertainment. After seven years if you guys aren't married, You'd better be prepared for the worst.
2006-09-13 15:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok alot of people are sayin as him to marry you, Thats cool but just b/c you get married doesn't mean you will never leave you, So i say just have faith in him and you, He's meen there for you this long i don't think he's going anywhere. Good luck
2006-09-13 15:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss the possibility of marriage. Find out why you are not married now, unless you already know. Are you or is he afraid to make that final committment? Why? What are you afraid of? Good luck and god bless.
2006-09-13 15:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Judging by the fact that you yourself used the term "addicted" you probably ought to see a therapist.It's too difficult to try to figure something as potentially destructive as that,by yourself. Good luck.
2006-09-13 15:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by Yahooanswerssux 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If things are going good the way they are, just leave it as it is. I don't really agree with the asking to marry because the thought of commitment to me, as a male, is scary. I say stop fretting because if it's meant to be, he will propose. Just stay positive
2006-09-13 15:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jared S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay I definitely feel what you saying & if you are a young person please realize that you can't allow yourself to get that caught up in anyone. Sure love him ,like you would love yourself but don't forget who you are . You are someone without him. You will have to not think of him leaving or loosing him . Baby girl :Think postive is my very best advice for you.
2006-09-13 15:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋