What do I do when everyone I know says my g/f cheats and people always say bad things about her? What should I do? Any oppinions? _Bobby_
2006-09-13 08:25:51 · 16 answers · asked by Stacy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only way you would handle this situation would be to come clean with her that you are hearing stuff about her from many different sources that she's cheating on you and not being faithful...then you can hear from her in person what her answer would be to that...there's only 2 things she's going to say...either she's going to deny it or honestly tell you those things that people are saying about her are true...only you know when your gf is lying because you can tell from her expression or tone of voice..so you should try this and maybe it'll help you not feel so curious and stuck...
2006-09-13 08:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by lilsweetone619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest looking into the accusations. Sometimes the old saying "Love is Blind" is more true than we'd like to admit to ourselvs. On the other hand this could be a previous reputation following her, not her current situation, so try to be objective. Last but not least the only opinion that truly matters is your own. If you love her, or even just really really like her, then you can continue to feel that way guilt free. It's you life, not theirs. Tell those who give you this "advice" that you appriciate their concern, but you don't really want to hear it anymore. People will give up trying to warn you eventually.
P.S. As far as telling her what people are saying about her, that's probably not a good idea. I know that I wouldn't like that, and it could just put a rift between you. If she asks don't lie, but I wouldn't just tell her what is being said. (Besides, I'm sure she already knows.)
2006-09-13 15:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the girlfriend, see what she says, and explain your concern to her cheating. Keep your relationship open and honest. If she tells you that she hasn't and doesn't cheat, trust her, that's all you can do, and then ignore what people are saying about her. Stick up for your girl and say she's not like that. If she says she has cheated or she thought about it, then leave her, find someone more honest towards you that cares about you. Talk to her first before you make any rash decisions though
2006-09-13 15:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This points to a very important thing in a person... character. It is this that defines a person. If your girl has bad character you need to tell her about what others say (not giving any names).
If her character does not change after the talk then you must break up. You will be inviting a bunch of hurt if you do not !!!
2006-09-13 15:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself why people say those things. Where did they get their info from. If a lot of people are looking for your best interest, sorry to say it she probably is cheating on you.
2006-09-13 15:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by booyah-baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your girl ,at least I hope you do. You can't always go with what others think or say or you will be one lonely young man. Just go with what you feel for her & what you guys got going on. Forget everyone else until you see it with your own 2 eyes.
2006-09-13 15:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept her for who she is. When your friends tell you things like that, say, "So what?"... it diffuses their argument. If her cheating bothers you, and you would rather not have her in your life, if that is who she is, then you need to end the relationship, and move on.
2006-09-13 15:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bobby are they jealous? They may not want you to be happy. Or, do you know for sure that she isn't doing what they are saying about her. They may want to not see you get hurt. But only you have the control or your relationship, don't forget that. Do, you trust her?
2006-09-13 15:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Dimples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's not true jus ignore it and show everyone that the relationship can be good even with rumors going around. prove them wrong
2006-09-13 15:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you trust her? How serious are you about her? Is this a girlfriend of a week or years?
If all of your friends have a problem with your girlfriend/boyfriend then I have found that there is usually a problem.
2006-09-13 15:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by jennypoo803 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋