my friends boyfriend recently broke up with her over the phone he said it wasnt her it was him hes afraid of commitment and just felt they were movivg to fast that shes a lovely girl and was telling her this now rather than later because he really likes her and doesnt want to hurt her was do you think like me that this was just an easy way out for him?or could he be decent{they were toghther for 4 months!
2006-09-13 08:25:28 · 28 answers · asked by keevy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesnt matter...the fact that he said it was him means that he just wants out,full stop. Men in my experience,and im not tarring all with the same brush,only accept full responsibility/culpability if they want something badly...so tell your friend to let it go and move on...good luck
2006-09-14 05:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you look at it. It means that the guy has gotten to really know your friend and realized that he does not care about her enough to persue a relationship. It doesn't mean that he dislikes her, but there just isn't enough there for a solid relationship for him. The only way you'll truly be able to tell is if they still hang out weeks after the break up. If he's still around, he likes her and really was afraid of the commitment, if he vanishes off of the face of the earth, then it was a line because he didn't want to tell her honestly the specifics in wanting to break up, usually means he found somebody else.
2006-09-13 15:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
speaking from experience.. I say its a lie. Ive said that to boys before as an easy escape. If a relationship is moving to fast then its easy to slow it down. just dont see eachother as much.. thats a soppy excuse ! However, he probably did mean the part about her being a lovely girl.
2006-09-13 15:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by ashley_kiley_wilson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might have some reasons that only he can understand. Maybe he's an old fashion guy, and that he just wants a slow paced relationship. So when things got too fast for him, he got afraid and immediately thought of ending it with her. You might want to ask him for the exact reasons so that you and your friend can understand the situation better. Good luck!
2006-09-13 15:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are never any easy ways to slow down or end a relationship . Whether its him or her it doesn't matter. What matters is that he's not ready for where the relationship was heading and was man enough to let her know. To me, it sounds like he may be keeping the door open though...even if its just friendship for now.
Sometimes when dating people and it is getting serious...to seperate for awhile will really tell you if that person is the one or not.
2006-09-13 15:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a lie. He's found someone else. Men don't break up with someone unless they have someone else to take their place. I know it sounds harsh, but it is an absolute fact.
Read " What Men Don't Want Women to Know: The Secrets, the Lies, the Unspoken Truth" by Smith. It's a hard lesson and you may not want to hear it, but it has saved my marriage. Forewarned is forearmed.
Tell your friend to count her blessings. She's better off out of it. He did her a big favour.
2006-09-13 15:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by Joyous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like the truth to me. He was doing the decent thing and telling her, a lot of guys would have simply ignored her or been cruel about their reason. They were only together 4 months so I think he was telling the truth.
2006-09-13 15:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was him. He didn't love her. Not because she did anything wrong, it just wasn't right for him for whatever reason. So he did the sensible thing and is moveing on before either of them get more emotionally invested and really end up getting hurt. He sounds like he handled it the best he could.
2006-09-13 15:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
at least it wasn't a text!! It doesn't matter really does it?? Accept the relationship is over and respect the fact that he did the semi-honourable thing ( honourable thing would have been to do it personally) and move on, don't try and dig up the facts as you never know what you will find
2006-09-13 15:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by matt_mattuk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was an easy way for him,because: why he was waiting tell her that, after 4 months? Does not make sense.Good question.
2006-09-13 15:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋