My Daughter is 1 1/2 yrs old and me and her mother share custody. we have not gone through the courts with this but have agreed to this decision. Her Mother Now Takes Care Of My Daughter Half Of the time And I do the other half. She Recently Asked Me to get together with her to sign a document with a notory stating her as the primary provider to my daughter. She says it so she can get her on her medical insurance. Should I sign those papers? and if i do what rights will i be losing to my daughter? Please Help I Am In dier Need!
2006-09-13 08:16:08 · 31 answers · asked by JakeThePoet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its a trick dont do it. call a lawyer
2006-09-13 08:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by DECATSDEAD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suggestion? Do not sign your name to Anything before you know what your signing! Get legal advice first! Maybe someone on here knows a web address to go to for help.She does need your permission to have your daughter treated while she's in her care.She can't do that without your permission unless she's a legal guardian and you said nothing has gone through the courts so by right you and your wife are the only two people right now that can say how she{your daughter} can be treated if she needs medical attention!
2006-09-13 08:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't relinquishing your parental rights...that is much more complicated than signing a paper in front of a notary. You are just basically giving her permission to be able to get them treated by a dr..etc....however, if you are concerned about it simply add a line to whatever you are signing saying that the father (you) is NOT in any way, shape, or form relinquishing his parental rights, this document if strictly for the childs care when not in their fathers custody..problem solved. That way if she IS trying to steal your parental rights through some back door way it won't work...if you request the addition of that line and she suddenly loses interest in having it signed then she was up to something. If its just about medical insurance most states offer several options for getting kids covered, check in to that too. Good luck.
2006-09-13 08:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a care provider I would suggest that you go to a lawyer and have papers signed, IF you can't afford this right the letter yourself stating that she (mother) is watching your daughter until you can take custody of her. You can let her be the primary but make sure that any decisions she makes is agreed by both parties.(you and she) Make sure you word it in the agreement and Please, Please make sure you are active in the child's life because if she wants she can go to court and say you are not holding up your part of the bargain and seek full custody and then you have to go to court for visitation.
2006-09-13 08:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should be on your medical insurance so if you can get her on it that would be better than signing a docment provided by your mother in law.
If relations between the two of you were to deteriorate and she were to sue for full custody having that signed document would not look good for you because it will show that she already provides for your daugher with your blessing.
2006-09-13 08:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Monica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea as far as the health insurance is concern, but be very careful of what you sign-
the word primary provider means( first).
only problem is if they find out she is not the primary provider the insurance will not pay and call this fraud. this also includes the IRS if she is the primary provider then you will need proof of your child support-when income tax time comes around. get some free legal help.
2006-09-13 08:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by whisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT. She is tricking you the only way you can be on a person's medical insurance is if they are your daughter or son. If you sign those papers your pretty much saying she belongs to her. My best advice to you is show those papers to a lawyer before signing anything. My dad is a lawyer I know about these things.
2006-09-13 08:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is trying to get you to sign a legal guardianship of your daughter to your Mother-In Law. This would give her legal custody of your daughter, and would change your custody status. To make sure your best interests are covered in this document, I would highly recommend you get the opinion of an attorney before signing ANYTHING.
2006-09-13 08:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Foo Foo Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consult a lawyer with a copy of the papers and see if that's the case. I don't think you give up rights to your daughter but it does shift the financial responsibility. Beware of the fine print though.
Call a lawyer in your area-- most of them have a free first consultation and will help you understand the sorted details.
Have a great day!!!
2006-09-13 08:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SIGN!! Get a lawyer and take it thru court. You could get screwed over more ways than I'd like count. Your time with your daughter can be reduced at the very least. For both your sake and your daughters sake, talk to a lawyer! Good luck to both you and your daughter.
2006-09-13 08:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the document and what is stated in it. I personally wouldn't sign anything without having an attorney look over it. They shouldn't charge too much to do that. The money spent will be well worth the peace of mind.
2006-09-13 08:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋