My boss just said something interesting that I hope doesn't have much truth to it....he said that the main reason I am single is I am young and inexperienced and most importantly, I don't understand women very well - he says a fundamental thing that I will learn is that women don't really care about looks, personality, kindness, compassion, things like that, but rather, they look for "what a guy can provide for them." I take this to mean material things like money, clothes, jewelry, cars, etc. etc. In other words, "What's in it for me." Now I know this is probably just a generalization and just his opinion, but I don't want a girl like this anyway. My boss has lots of money and uses that along with his fake charm to pick up girls, and he's successful, but there's no substance there. Ladies what do you think??
2006-09-13 08:07:59 · 42 answers · asked by spb428 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion its all about personality, kindness and compassion.
2006-09-13 08:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's wrong, if that was the case rich couples would stay together forever but that doesn't happen...Women want a man who can provide from them selves, true but that's not what attracts us to men....(talking about real women here, no gold diggers or whores)..We want a man that can be here for us when we need them (emotionally), we need a man to be honest, loyal, understanding, patient, respectful, loving, and kind. Money cannot buy that. You can have all the money in the world but if you an @*** hole no self respectable woman will want you.
Men think that women are so complicated but I don't think we are. True some of us need a little more attention than others but here's the best way to win a woman's heart (assuming you a respectable guy), simply treat her the way you would want to be treated. True we have vagina's but we're still human beings, there's no special trick to get a woman. Respect is always key.
Good luck hunting!
2006-09-13 08:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your boss is a knob.
I'm sure there are women out there with the sole purpose of finding a man that can provide for them.
I myself have always looked for a man that has qualities as those your boss listed to be what women don't really care about.
Sure it's nice if a guy has money but really that doesn't make a relationship.
Who in there right mind would want to be with a guy that has tons of cash but otherwise lacks in every other department? That doesn't make for a happy relationship.
This is, of course, my opinion.
2006-09-13 08:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by bluesie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you said about your boss, he sounds like a real shallow, egotistical ___. So, when he says women are only interested in what a guy can provide for them, he may just be talking about material things, which is a gross generalization on his part.
On the other hand, I do care about what a man can give to me. However, I'm talking about things like good conversation, mental and physical stimulation, comfort, and enough room for me to be myself. If a guy can't bring these things to the table, there's just no room for a relationship.
I guess everyone thinks "what's in it for me" when assessing a relationship, as we all should; there's no point to being in a relationship that you don't find fulfilling in any way. It's just that different people want different things.
2006-09-13 08:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by nava_clue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boss is right if the girl is only in it for material things. I think your boss says this because these are the kind of girls he gets. Trust me women are interested in compassion, kindness, personality and looks. I think you better not listen to your boss on this one, unless you want to waste all of your cash on someone who will be gone when the money runs out.
2006-09-13 08:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by LJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say its your boss that is inexperienced and he's the one that doesn't understand women at all. My husband makes me laugh all the time, we have great communication, we enjoy the simple things in life. We're not rich by any means, but I wouldn't trade him for all the money in the world. I would have to say your boss uses his money to make up for his lack of personality and is inside a sad man. I wish I could talk to him on this one lol
2006-09-13 08:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think women look for lots of things. For me looks would be last on the list. A relationship wont work unless the man is kind, compassionate and honest. In other words, most men aren't those things and the relationships end. Then after years and years and years of getting treated badly by men I would assume what most women start thinking is if your going to have a man who will eventually treat you badly he might as well have money. Men give us nothing and then pick at us for wanting good in our lives. They dont treat us good and then stand back and call us gold diggers.
2006-09-13 08:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the woman. Some women are attracted to money, but others do want a guy who is kind, has a nice personality, etc. Your boss sounds pretty arrogant to me. The kind of women he will get with his money are the shallow, selfish ones. So if you want a real relationship with a real woman just keep being your sweet self.
2006-09-13 08:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are so on the right track. Your boss must be lacking in all the areas he said women don't care about, how sad for him that all he has to offer is money. Most women just want someone who will TRULY listen to them. DON'T listen to your boss or you will never find a nice girl.
2006-09-13 08:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by JJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
>.< your boss needs to come face to face with me.
cause he'll learn quickly he is quite mistaken. now i admit some girls do look for this in males. but not all.
generally females look to be loved and males to give love. we do look to see if the guy is willing to give us things and make us feel special but it is not a requirement. im glad youre lookin for a woman that isnt like what youre boss described. and personally inexperienced boys are a major turn on to me. i was my fiance's first REAL girlfriend. he had dated and stuff but it only lasted a couple of weeks etc.
we're getting married in a year or so and we've been dating for 2.5 years
2006-09-13 08:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is some validity to what he is saying some females do not date or wont date anyone who is not a homeowner and makes less than 50,000 a year, actually at least 100,000 is the requirement,I had a few friends like this, and they were all nurses who could provide for themselves and not looking for a liability, marriage is a financial decision and some girls only date guys who are a potential mate to wed and do not want to waste their time on relationships going nowhere or on a beast of burden
2006-09-13 08:14:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋