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Controlling behavior- decides where you will go, who you
are "allowed" to see, is bossy. gives orders and expects them to be
followed, makes all the decisions in the relationship, does not
respect your opinions, wants and needs, tells you how to dress,
accuses you of things you didn't do, everything has to be his/her
way.
Isolation- through behaviors or words tries to have you all to
him/herself. Does not like you to be around anyone but him/her. Sees
friends and family as competition. Expects you to stay home alone if
you are not with him/her.
Blames others for problems- does not accept responsibility for
his/her behavior, always thinks others or the world are out to get
him/her, sees everything as anyone and everyone else's fault but
his/her own, will not hold him/herself accountable for words or
actions, always has an excuse.
2006-09-13 08:00:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is so NOT a housewive position. Unfortunately, your husband is a controlling freak. He is unsecure. Since that's the way he thinks, you should tell him that you are going to find yourself a job. Secondly, open your circle by talking to family and making friends. If you don't do that, you will lose your personnality. You will lose what makes you YOU, an unique Human Being.
2006-09-13 08:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by stamykati 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh no that doesnt sound good. you dont need a man like that in ur life. been a house wife is about the two of you coming togheter and been a team. not a man that bring the money home and u are expected to be a maid and a cook , house keeper etc. thats not how it works. he doent know what he has and is taking an advantege of the situation. we are now in 2006 not in the 30 or 40. he needs a good kick in the a.ss. try to talk to him and see if you can come to an agreement. my husband is in the army and mon-fri i try my best to keep evetything were it need to be and thats bc i want to and on the weekends he has his part to do like laundry this day n i the next.try to work it out if not see a counceler or just follow what you think is best.
2006-09-13 15:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by ice_princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not how it is. I have been a house wife the last 7 years. It is the hardest job I have ever had. But I do get things done on MY schedule. Just because you are a housewife does not mean that he is your boss. You still have a vioce in all areas in your life. Take control, stand up for yourself and live your life how you choice.
2006-09-13 16:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is classic abuser behavior. You need to make some sold plans about what you are going to do once he starts hitting you, and he will.
Do you have young children in the home? You need to think about how they view this.
Please find out if there is a women's shelter in your city. They have councilors you can talk to.
DO IT NOW!
2006-09-13 15:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by MomDude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO that is NOT what being a housewife is all about. Get the hell out now. That's HIS idea and he's a control freak which is one step away from abuser! I've been in that situation. I kept hoping it would get better but it didn't. It got worse so I got out!
2006-09-13 15:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will not get better and I would take a hike out of the house for good. Seems as if you did that, he would hound you, stalk you, and continue to press you to come back.
I think he has low self esteem, is extremely jealous (which can get dangerous). Psychologically, he might think you are too good for him.
He might be echoing what he saw in his house, watch him when he is with his parents and see how he acts, and how they act.
He appears to be right at being abusive and abuse is inherited - you get it from your parents.
2006-09-13 16:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by Polyhistor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does have a controlling problem and a responsibility problem. I really don't know much about the situation that you are in for i have never been in one like. Have you tried to go out and get a job yourself. I have alot of suggestions but don't know enough about you or him/her. If you would like you can get a hold of me on my yahoo messenger I have it on 24 hours a day. winnie_the_pooh_69692004@yahoo.ca
2006-09-13 15:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Robyn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like a mentally abusive relationship. Get out!
2006-09-13 15:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much, unless you help pay the bill. Get a job and you bothe call the shots.
2006-09-13 15:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by delta s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in my world it isn't!!! I am a housewife, my hubby makes the money. RUN!!!
2006-09-13 21:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by luvbeingwifenmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋