is it time to move in with friends, or should I try to patch things up? We always fight about every little thing, and she always thinks I am lying, so it's like before I even do anything wrong, I'm doomed!
2006-09-13 07:54:03 · 19 answers · asked by NiceShoes8705 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother and I were like that for a long time! She was very controlling and wanted control over everything I did and everyone I saw. We didnt get along until I was about 25 or 26!!!! Once she saw I WAS capable of making my own choices and take care of myself! I would say if u r totally unhappy find an apt of your own BUT still patch things up with your mom. Whether u stay with her or move- try to make things good with her. I lost my mom 6 years ago and my heart is broken- we lost alot of time together arguing and fighting and I wish I could go back in time- u will only have one mom in your life- love her to peices while she is here even if she is wrong!
2006-09-13 08:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand this pretty good. It's more like a personality clash, being that you're a legal adult now and have more independent thoughts. Mom is probably getting old and wants to maintain control, even if it means nitpicking the crap out of you.
Unless you've had a heart to heart talk with your mom, or even went to some family counseling, you'll either have to stick it out, or move. You might want to weigh your options about moving out. You'll have your freedom, but then you'll have to pay for everything. Unless you have a really good paying job, paying bills suck. If you have a roommate, hopefully you both can work all situations out and not squabble about too many things, otherwise why not stay with your mom if your going to squabble.
I was in the same boat about 20 years ago. I stuck it out and saved my money to buy a house ( I was employed too, of course). I then packed up and left.
2006-09-13 08:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of mothers and daughters fight and it's hard on both of them.It depends on what kind of personality that your mother has.Is she angry all the time? How much of it has to do with you and how much of it because of other things going on in her life? Living out on your own and splitting rent with some girls would be a good experience for you depending on what kind of people the girls are.If you have a fairly decent job and think that you can support yourself without having to ask your mother for help then you might be ok. Some mothers are cranky and unforgiving and some have a good reason to be angry . Only you know whats really going on there. You h ave to do whats best for yourself even if it ends up being that you have play nice nice with her to keep a roof over your head.I've been where you're at and sometimes there's not much a daughter can do to make her mother like or support her.Good luck.
2006-09-13 08:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Yahooanswerssux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out on a mother daughter day and just talk to her and try to get a little understanding of each other. Tell her how you feel and ask her what makes her feel that you are lying. in time thing will eventually heal and if the fighting continues then you can move out but i would recommend that you stay and try to work it out.
2006-09-13 08:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Bree Lynne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the reason your Mom thinks you're lying because you have in the past and been caught at it?
Sometimes it is very hard for a mother to let go of her little girl. You know you will always be her Little girl.
Try talking to her woman to woman and tell her how you feel. I'll bet you both will be crying and hugging in no time.
2006-09-13 08:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by MomDude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to move out on your own. If there is always going to be a fight before you do something then there are more issues going on than just you.
2006-09-13 08:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 23:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 19, you need to move out on your own now. My parents and I fought constantly until I moved out. Try to patch things up while you are getting your own place.
2006-09-13 07:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not like the situation get out. It is hard to get along with your parents and live at home! Especially when you are 19. It took me many years to like my mom. It wasn't until I was about 26 or so that I began to realize why my mom did some of the things she did. I say get out and take care of yourself. the relationship will eventually work itself out
2006-09-13 08:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 19 you should have a job. Move out. She may want the same thing.
2006-09-13 07:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋