What make a guy good in bed and what makes a guy suck in bed. I want to think that its all the same but people say hes good or he sucks. Can someone please explain this to me.
2006-09-13 07:50:34 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont pay attention to all these.Its your love and passion that counts.
2006-09-13 07:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What makes a guy good in bed? I can tell you lots of things do for example how passionate he is when he is making love or how he shows concern if he feels that he is hurting the woman that he is with, the way he takes time out to make sure his woman is being satisfied, the way he makes her feel when he is touching her and holding her and kissing her, just saying sweet things to her when they are making love, the fact that he is romantic. What makes a guy that sucks in bed? I've never had that but I would say a guy that only wants sex and then he is up and out the door before she can get her pleasure that would suck for any woman.
2006-09-13 08:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are 10 best tips -
Communicate with your partner
This will strengthen the bond between your partner and you. Talk about the sexual activity you like best, and get to you your partner’s preferences. But beware. Never talk of major issues while having sex. You might end up spoiling an intimate moment, so get the issue out of the bedroom.
Start foreplay early
Foreplay can be anything. A slight peck on the cheeks, a small massage of the shoulders or slow pat on the back. Start the foreplay as early as the morning, and let it go on through out the day by passing on sweet nothings to your partner. This will increase your emotional connection and the arousal will linger on.
Make plans for sex
Sometimes when the couple is busy with work, it makes sense to put it in your diary. After all, it is an important ingredient of your relationship. So plan ahead.
Sex should be fun
Remember having sex is like sport, but there is no winning. It is just a pastime. Experiment with toys and lingerie. Or anything that creates a special mood for you. When was the last time you had an orgasm? Am sure you do not remember. But if I ask you when was the last time you had memorable sex, you might probably end up saying: “That day when we were experimenting with blah blah.” There you go!
Take turns initiating sex
Take turns initiating the sex. It is fun when you surprise your partner. Sometimes you might not be in the frame of mind for sex. No hassles, as long as you `stay` with your partner - soon your body will react to his/hers and you'll become aroused in the process.
Sexual stimulation + intellectual stimulation
If you intend to have sex in the evening, I would recommend you take time out for a small talk in the morning. Watching TV, read a book…do anything but spend time together.
Pretend it is your last time
Ever had sex thinking it was going to be your last? Try it out. You will feel a sudden surge of passion, which you never knew existed. Moreover, your emotions will give you a new appreciation for each other.
Make household chores sexy
This is a two-way thing. It helps to get over with the mundane household chores and at the same time provides some excitement. If washing dishes is something that none wants to do, make it interesting. Announce it to your partner that whoever washes the dishes gets to request a strip tease from the other. Hmm…
Get a stopwatch
Get a stopwatch and find out how many seconds/minutes your partner can withstand certain operations like caressing, nibbling etc. The time will vary for different parts of the body. To start with the experiment will be fun. Anyways, if you have all the information written down…isn’t that a goldmine of information about your partner’s preferences?
Write a book together
Are you hesitant to share your erotic fantasies with your partner? No problem. Just sit down with him/her and suggest you write a erotic short story together. Once he /she sees what you've dreamed up for your "characters," your partner will get the hint.
2006-09-13 07:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by cuttiiee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the question that most virgins are obsessed about.
The first thing that makes someone good in bed is a sense of humour. Sex is not half as glamourous and perfect as it seems in the movies, its messy, sometimes clumsy and produces all sorts of comedy noises.
You should be with someone who makes you feel comfortable and can giggle when things go not quite as planned.
Sex is good when you both trust each other and take time to know what each other want.
Paying attention to the other person and asking what they like will help you be good in bed.
Also its very personal, what one person thinks is good in bed someone else will not.
If you are in love and relaxed and with someone who is willing ti practise with you :)
you will both enjoy your time in bed.
2006-09-13 07:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first a man good in bed will put his women's needs first. Then the guy that sucks in bed is out for his self only.
2006-09-13 07:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by bfm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its takes a lot of practice first of all. Mostly though when people say a guy 'sucks' it means he's selfish (doesn't care about anything except himself getting off), he's rough or clumsy and too fast to ejactulate. You also have to remember that a lot of this is going to be about what your partners experiences have been and what their expectations and personal preferences are.
2006-09-13 07:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a good lover you are very into making her feel good, make her feel it's all about her.
If you are a sucky love you are in it just for you. Wham bam thank you mam sort of thing. You would much rather be a good lover then a sucky one so if you remember to make it all about her you will never go wrong.
2006-09-13 07:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well women want a man that can really bang her back out and knock the bottom out her pussy. Therefore if a man can't bring that kind of energy to the bedroom when they are sexing it will make things boring.
2006-09-13 07:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some one who takes his time and makes sure that you are enjoying it too is good. some one who just gets him self satisfied suck. but wait a while and the right one will come along
2006-09-13 07:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can not be explained any other way but through experience sorry, if you want to really know how to satisfy the girl you are with talk yo her ask her get to know her do not be scared to say "baby i want to make you feel good tell me what you like" if you say that at just the right moment she will love you
2006-09-13 07:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by dydy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate when a guy is only in it for himself and will just do one position or whatever (basically i hate if a guy doesn't care to make his girl come) and it bothers me that my boyfriend comes so fast buti guess theres nothing i can do about it...we've been together for 10 months and at first he was saying it was because he hadn't had sex in so long and he just needed to get back in the groove...but dang how long does it take
2006-09-13 07:54:28 · answer #11 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋