Unruly Neighbor's 3 year old?

Question

I live in a fourplex and we have a neighbor who has a new wife and she has a 3 year old son. They live on the second floor and this child is so horrindous. The mother doesn't disipline him and she won't let her husband dicipline him. The child has thrown trash all over the yard, yells at our dogs, spits soda off the side of the porch, and throws toys everywhere. We even found a 4 inch knife in our yard. The child threw it at our dogs! We have confronted the mother several times and she has some excuse about having a "sleeping disorder" and her son is too stubborn to dicipline. My husband and I and our neighbors have had it. They won't dicipline the child and we want this to stop. Any ideas?

We live on a military post so getting them evicted is rather difficult. We are documenting when these things happen though.

The husband is not the boy's father and his mother will not let him punish the child.

Answer 1

There are rules to follow, even on military bases. (Or should that be ESPECIALLY!) Stop trying to talk to the woman, since it is obvious that she will do nothing to help you. Talk to her husband. Complain to the office that assigns residences. As you said, document everything, and copy and present your evidence to everyone you speak to. Start up a petition with the other neighbours.

It is always the squeaky wheel that gets the grease....so complain long and hard, and don't give up until something is done. The man involved might consider moving his new family off the base entirely.

Never act in anything but a polite and respectful manner, but BE FIRM!

Answer 2

Calling Child Protective Services does not mean the child is in danger or not being taken care of regularly, it just means the door has been opened and forces the parents to take responsibility of the child. The child could harm another child or even the parents, as well as be harmful to itself. I would rather be safe than sorry. You can call in and not give your identity. This will save the neighbor hostiity if you do not act like you are guilty.

Answer 3

i replaced into your daughter, approximately 15 years in the past, and as a reformed difficulty newborn i will inform you without a shred of doubt, some thing handed off. I see some people have stated that her issues appeared to have began around the time of the advent of your new boyfriend. I additionally see which you're adamant that he's a stable guy/father, and basically with the aid of fact she does not like him does no longer mean which you should throw him out and that i could believe you on that factor. That being stated, don't be blinded with the help of affection. i'm no longer asserting that he did or that he did no longer "do" some thing to her, yet as her mom do no longer you think of it rather isn't any less than a danger? And in spite of the fact that minute that danger may be its rather properly worth it sluggish to perform a little investigating. i do no longer prefer to scare you yet teenagers do no longer purely commence performing cray cray for no reason. yet another element to contemplate is that her father is in penal complex which has its very own problems for a newborn. That being stated.... scientific care scientific care scientific care!!! and that i do no longer propose kin counseling, besides the undeniable fact that i'm specific your or any kin for that remember ought to income from kin counseling, it rather is my opinion that your daughter needs somebody to talk to able this is secure for her to rather open up. I additionally see this submit is approximately 2 years previous, and that i ponder whether you will provide us an replace?? wish each little thing worked itself out :)

Answer 4

First of all a three year old walking around with a knife? Yeah, I would have called children services after that. I know you don't want to start a huge conflict or anything either. Have you talked to the stepdad? Maybe he can influence the mom some. Mines almost four and he was never, NEVER, that unruly that he was disturbing the neighbors like that. She sounds like a lazy ***** who just doesn't want to get off her *** and do her job. Like watching her son so he at least doesn't play with knives. What's he doing outside all by himself anyway? Even if it just on a second story porch. What if he was playing to wrong way one day and fell off. EEWWWW that just pissed me off that she's that ignorant!!

Answer 5

If you're on a military post, find out what unit the parents are in and notify their commander or senior NCO. You could also contact the base housing office, or child protective services - no 3 year old should be running around with a knife.

Answer 6

I would talk to the landlord or the owner of the building. But if she can't take care of her child because she has some sleeping disorder, and the kid is playing with 4 inch knives maybe you should get child welfare involved. As annoying as the kid is, I feel bad for him, it sounds like he acts out as a way of getting attention, because he probably isn't getting the attention he needs. That would be so frustrating for you guys though! May the force be with you!!

Answer 7

Is there anyway you can talk to the owner of the building? If you and the other tenents band together the owner may listen to you more openly and he/she might evict them. I would start documenting the stuff you mentioned with pictures or video. Keep copies of all notes and letter you give to these people so you can show them to the proper authorities.

Hmmmmm.....Military is a little different but I would still try to talk to the base housing OIC and take him the evidence you collect. Keep bringing it up until they do something about it.

Answer 8

Call the MP or the housing authority when he acts up. Better yet, call child protective services. Even though housing is provided, there must be rules. The military has rules for everything. Hang in there. Hopefully you can find some peace while helping this poor child.

Answer 9

You need to talk to the landlord. After so many complaints it is possible that the landlord could threaten eviction, that might motivate the mother to discipline her child. Document everything that happens in writing. I used to work for a property management company and any piece of evidence you can give is helpful in evictions.

Answer 10

Notify the landlord that his property is being damaged. I would also call the Child Protective Agency because this mother is not supervising her child. They will take charge of the situation.