What am I going to do?

Question

At school we have a form tutor who is kind of mardy. However, he is not that bad unless you don't do what he says or if you answer him back. My friend really doesn't get on with him. She hates him, answers him back and stuff. I think I am the only one in the form who thinks he's okay. But, now my friend has taken it to the next level. She is trying to get people to complain, and that means me. I really don't want to, but she has the support of alot of people. I just don't want my name to come up. Also, he was considering submitting me to gifted and talented, but I am worried he won't think about it if I join in. Also, last tuesday, my friend nicked his key and switched it. The thing is she took the key from me so I was a main suspect. I really don't know what t do, do I join in or just say nothing, but she said she might call me into the head's office to say something when she is complaining. I don't want to upset her, but I don't want to play apart int this. What do I do?

She gave the key back when they searched her locker. Also, this is o prank. This is a headteacher's complaint, she wants everyone to sign a letter and go and talk to the headteacher.

Answer 1

If she was a real friend she would not be bullying you. Do not let yourself be intimidated into doing something you don't believe in. I know you probably think it will be the end of the world if you lose her friendship, but you will make many other friends during your school life. I feel you should tell your teacher what is being planned, that way you will not get in trouble for her actions. Good luck

Answer 2

If this was me I'd wait for an opportunity to speak to the teacher involved and tell them what's going on in secret. It's easy to say that you should confront your friend and tell the truth about how you feel but, if I remember right, that's not so easy when you're still at school. By telling the adult involved no matter what you do with your friends (even if that means you're being two faced and sneaky) you have spoken to the right person about how you feel. For all the adults reading this, don't say that it's morally wrong to sneak about behind your friend's back. Remember peer pressure at school? It's almost impossible to win by going against other teenagers and the person asking this sounds mature enough to know what's right. Talk to the adults involved and they will understand and take the situation out of your hands without involving you - it's not your responsibility to sort this out.

Answer 3

Here's the thing with this type of situation--the complaining of students rarely gets change, and all the administration will do is listen. It is usually based on personality conflicts...not something the administration is deeply concerned with handling due to more pressing issues. It just gets ugly. How did you get the key in the first place? Doesn't matter now...just stay out of it. If she is really your friend, she will understand. Again, if the support is mainly students, nothing will happen to this individual except a discussion of his conduct...support staff for schools is hard to find. Hope it works out for you. You sound like a good, caring person.

Answer 4

you have to do what you feel is right, it could end up causing such a problem that he ends up losing his job. Sounds to me like a personality clash, but an official complaint is serious. If you do not agree, you need to tell your friend and they will respect your opinion if they are your friend. If you do get asked to the heads office, you need to be honest, this is a teachers life you are messing with, not just a one day issue, it will effect his career for the rest of his life. Just do what you think is right, if your friend is a true friend, she will respect your decision

Answer 5

Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

Answer 6

Follow your conscience Wolf, which seems to be that you do not want any part in it. Insist that she gives you back the key and return it to the tutor. If she refuses, tell her quite firmly that you are about to report her to the tutor or head. If she cuts you off, so be it, she cannot be a true friend. Do not get involved in the trouble as it will harm your future if you do. Tell her exactly where you stand and if she accepts it, she is a true friend, otherwise 'goodbye'..............

Answer 7

Don't get involved, and tell her your reasons. Make it clear you want no part in this. She's stupid doing this and could cause all sorts of problems for this guy. She'll be found out eventually anyway. Stick to your ground on this one.

Answer 8

if you really don't want to hurt others feeling just ignore it. but say to your teacher what really happened.........if you are not doing anything that is unpleasant don't be afraid of what others thinking..........it is you,who most know yourself.......and beside your teacher is a difficult person just continue treating him/her the way you do.......

Answer 9

I think your education is more important then pranking the teacher.You don't have to do anything that you aren't comfortable with.

Just say...no.

Answer 10

do what you think is right and if your friend is a real friend tell her how you feel if she is a true friend then she will accept your opinion do what you think not what others want you to