have a so called friend w/ benefits but for some reason we always end up more then that! It's like an addiction between us. We respect each other so much and enjoy being with each other. were friends always no matter what. We go out all are friends know were not "bf/gf" offically, but everyone tells us no matter how we hide it were totally a couple.i'm in love with this man no matter what. he just makes me happy when ever i'm around him and will do just about anyhting to get me to smile. before we meet he had recently gotten out of a bad relationship so he's not ready for anything offical. how long do i give him before i say i need to know if this is moving to the next level and i mean next level is bf/gf status offically. thanks in advance.
2006-09-13 07:07:36 · 16 answers · asked by clairhead222 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My gf and I started out as friends with benefits and many other relationships started that way. Each time they were wonderful and it was because we had all the good parts of a relationship with none of the stress. My current gf and I met 4 years ago, and have been living together now for three years. We have two children and couldn't be happier, and marriage isn't important to us. If you two have a good relationship enjoy it and know that you two have a far stronger relationship than most couples. In time it will develop into more so just enjoy what you have and be patient for what is to come.
2006-09-13 07:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by BURGIN24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I didn't know any better I would think I wrote this, seriously. I just had the "where do we stand" conversation last night. He is confused and isn't ready to give me more right now. I said I was okay with that and with waiting, for now. The thing is, it all depends on how long can you take the questioning and the unsure feelings. If in a month you feel you can't wait, tell him. Don't push, but go with how you feel. When it gets to the point you are feeling more sad then happy, it is time to fess up and say now or never. I hope it works out for us, good luck!
2006-09-13 07:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by turtle33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah friends with benefits been there. I think you need to say something as soon as but just be very gentle you don't want to scare him off by declaring love just take it slow. You sound like you have something really good and friendship is the best basis for a relationship. I appreciate he may be scared after his last relationship, but maybe tell him you care about him and how would he feel about you two just seeing each other. Explain you want to take it slow too. Its best to say something as soon as you can though so you know where you stand with him. Good luck to you hope everything works out the way you want it too. You never know what may happen my 'Friend with benefits' was a commitment phobe who didn't believe in relationships now he's my boyfriend of 7 months, the fact that we'd built up respect as friends was what made it happen I think.
2006-09-13 07:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you on the opposite end of what i'm going through right now. I have a boyfriend that has a relationship with an supposedly ex girlfriend. It seems like they have an addiction to each other, because they always seem to end up together no matter what. Even at the expense of my feelings. It seems like she " is" the girlfriend and I'm the friend with benefits. I would say don't wait to ask him what's up with you all do it now, because if you don't you'll always be a safety net. When he does get into another relationship more than likely it won't be with you, it will be with someone else.
2006-09-13 07:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I always say just hang out who cares about the official bf/gf stage I mean really what's the point. Women are so "I have to have an commitment" guys do not care about that stuff so just hang together its more exciting anyways don't you think. being in a one on one relationship exclusively is under rated especially in America when every 2 out of 3 marriages fail. I hope you see my point
2006-09-13 07:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the why you feel. You never know, he could feel the same way but is wondering about you. If you are that good with each other, a simple question shouldn't be hard to ask.
2006-09-13 07:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by jings51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give him a few months just to sort out his feelings for the other person. He will need some time before you go and tell him.
2006-09-13 07:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how long you want to wait around. figure that out and let him know. if he's not ready, it's gonna be hard to be around him in the future without giving in to temptation. if you can handle the "benefits" without the relationship, more power to you.
2006-09-13 07:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait long enough that you are healed from your last relationship and so is he, then tell him how you feel, maybe he feels the same and is afraid to push you.
2006-09-13 07:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont rush him, it will come enjoy what you have . i just dumped a friend w/ benefit yesterday for the same thing. i too just got out of a bad relationship and dont want to jump into anything to soon. dont put to much pressure
2006-09-13 07:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by DECATSDEAD 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋