I have kind of been seeing a girl for a few dates now, & 2 weeks ago she suggested we make it a bit more serious as a result she went in for the kill & i backed off. That night I told her that I do like her a lot but its happened all too soon & that we should take our time. Since that night she has refused to go out with me on 3 occassions although she still emails me @ work to ask about my day as well as last night texts in particular the last few weekends since that night. I know the girl likes me as she told me & although she was drunk when she said it I know she meant it by gut feeling. What should I do, as Ive given off signs that Im not that interested should I make a big effort to win her heart, wait for her to ask me out again as im sick of asking or just call the whole thing off?
2006-09-13 07:01:27 · 13 answers · asked by michaelbcfc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take some distance for sometime! And then come back to her. Talk with her and explain your who you are, and what you are expecting from her. Clear all possible misunderstanding that may arise in the future. Be frank to her. Also ask her about her own expectations from you. If you see that you can both cope with each others' opinion, then only you go ahead together. If you feel that there is indeed some points on which you cannot agree, its better not to go any further!
2006-09-13 07:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on realilty, you may be experiencing the regret for the "one that got away." As a man, I sometimes think about women who offered themselves to me in the past and I did not take the gift for whatever reason. I wonder what would have happened if I had taken "Ruth" up on her offer all those years ago. I know she felt rejected, though. And she was afraid I was going to tell all the guys about what a slut she was. I did not.
Women don't llike rejection any more than guys. She felt rejected. Also, she probably thinks you consider her a slut now. Write her an email telling her you really want to meet with her. Meet for a non-alcoholic drink somewhere neutral. Tell her what you feel. And, if it is true, tell her you still respect her (don't lie). Tell her really why you freaked. Get intimate emotionally. Tell her you are still interested.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 14:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give up yet. She wouldn't send all these emails and texts if she wasn't interested. Maybe the incident 2 weeks ago has embarrassed her hence why she hasn't wanted to meet up face to face. I can imagine she may have been wounded when you wanted to take it slow cause us girls aren't used to that, so she may have thought it meant you weren't interested in her that way. Persoanlly I think you should just message her back one night and say something along the lines of how you miss seeing her and would she like to hook up. If you don't ask you won't know, go on lifes too short!
2006-09-13 14:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you started drawing a picture and you could see that you'd made a mistake with only the second or third stroke of your pen what would you do? Discard it, non? Therefore do the same here and start again while it's still easy...that old adage there are plenty fish in the sea is a very true statement.
2006-09-13 14:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Paragonius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stop asking and play hard to get. Girls like a challenge not someone to just give in.
2006-09-13 14:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the whole thing off as she is just playing you. Seriously, she is just not that into you.
2006-09-13 14:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the girl was almost certainly embarrased by your refusal and is scared of you rejecting her again,,
why dont you come right out and ask the poor girl,, and explain your feeling on the subject,,it is possible she was just to keen to please you as she likes you very much,
go for it,, the girl sounds sincere to me..
good luck
2006-09-13 14:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she might think you are not taking the relationship seriously when you said no,she is tryin i'll give her that it's not like she cut u off completely.give her a chance.
2006-09-13 14:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude shes mad u didnt give it up yes girls get mad about that too not just us guys. so dude call her talk to her then give it up.
2006-09-13 14:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by slaphappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask straight up when she is sober about you guy's.
2006-09-13 14:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋