I don't know what to do with my son.He is 6 years old.When he does something bad,I spank him(sometimes harder).But while I beat him,he laughs!He smiles and laughs and tells me this is the most ridiculous way of punishment he has ever seen.I hit him harder and I'm even afraid not to harm him(to break a bone or something) but it seems he doesn't make any notice of beating.What should I do?
2006-09-13 07:00:33 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
refer to supernanny... time out.. take away toys.. there is a good book too.. it is about creative punishments .. i cant recall the name.. it recommends things like earasing thier video game memory cards.. maybe someone out there knows the name of the book
2006-09-13 07:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany P 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I doubt the comment your son made, but my daughter was the same way with spankings, she would literally laugh at me. So, I started using the belt or a wooden spoon. And for those making comments about not beating your kids, she probably shouldn't have stated it as beating, more like spanking. Thats the problem with kids today, complete lack of discipline and parents that are afraid to spank because of the fear they might get in trouble. You are legally allowed to spank your child. And you should do it, and do it often. But definately go with something a little harder that they'll feel. Just make sure you keep the spanking within the buttock area and don't leave any marks or you're doing it way too hard and will get into trouble for that.
2006-09-13 14:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st of all, you need to get a control on your anger and stop beating on your child. You do know that protective services are just waiting on parents such as yourself to mess up so that they can come in and take your child. Secondly, never ever ever never ever hit a child when you are angry with him because you could do some major damage to the child. A spanking is one thing but you say that you beat your 6 yr. old and thats pretty bad.
As parents sometimes we need a time out and thats not always possible but to answer your question: take what he loves the most if its his games, toys, books, bike, tv, radio, cd player, what ever take it from him until he understands that you are the parent and he is the child. There is no perfect child and they will test you but you have to stand firm and not give into him. Set a rule and stick to it. Don't allow him to have friends over or watch tv or if he likes talking on the phone believe me he will get the picture. Children remember things so you don't want him to grow up hating you for beating on him and if you beat him and he laughs at you don't do it cause apparently it doesn't work. God Bless you
2006-09-13 14:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen kids look defiant when getting spanked by half laughing half crying but its really just emotional reaction...like when some people laugh when they are really sad.If this is a real question than stop hitting your child and talk to him and see why he is missbehaving.I think people jump to spanking too fast...it should be a last resort. also for people that like to make up lies about others i just want to say "Axumult" its a secret word that only a person with real multiple personalities will understand.
2006-09-13 15:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by alecnaaron 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If "beating" him doesnt work, then you need to find a new method. I suggest you talk about the issue, and still punish the child. He may be acting out just to get your attention. Start spending more time with him, but only when he's acting like he should. Dont send him to his room if there are lots of things for him to do, instead send him to a more boring room and make him sit there, no talking, no moving, nothing. Dont stay in the same room with him either.
2006-09-13 14:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take everything out of his room except the bed.
Who is in charge in your house?
You are letting a 6 year old run things.
You better sit him down and tell him the way it is going to be.
Don't hit him harder. When he talks to you like that put soap in his mouth, if he laughs at that put vinegar.
Don't take it. I bare bottom spank my son. I've only had to do it three times and they were over a year apart. Get him a counselor too. You have really let him get out of control. take responsibility for it and fix it. You are the parent!
2006-09-13 14:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by HEATHER 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never spank your children. There is no evidence that it is helpful, and in your case your son has already figured out that it is not helpful. It is only making him contemptuous of your authority because he has figured out that he can take it. Or if you actually hurt him, you will just make him resentful. All you are teaching a child by spanking is that you are stronger than he is. You need to devise punishments that show him the actual consequences of his actions. e.g., taking away toys, or tv time. And you need to actually communicate with him, and help him behave better in a positive way.
I have 11 year old twins, and have never spanked them in their lives, and they are generally quite well behaved.
2006-09-13 14:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop hitting him and try to discuss with him. I think it is impossible for a six year old to say "This is the most ridiculous way of punishment I have ever seen." If he really says that check his IQ. He might be a genious.
2006-09-13 14:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by D C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake question, but -
Keep up the spanking (not beating) and then -
Take away toys, take away privledges, take away TV, take away video games - If he's left with nothing but a fresh pair of clothes, a bed, and a sock puppet for entertainment, and he's still that defiant, then go seek counseling.
2006-09-13 14:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by freebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beatingsd only teach children that violence is okay, and that they are allowed to beat other children up and that's not right. I was in abusive relationship with my mom and I just hated her with a passion when she would hit me but this has taught me to love any future children that I have with love!
Your son is going to get in trouble with the law, that much I can see !
I hope the children's aid comes and takes your son away!You don't deserve to be a parent!
2006-09-13 14:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by Christina M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is the dad in this picture sometimes it seems to help little boys if the male figure in the home is doing the dicipline. I know my son will listen to his dad but not me. If the dad is not around try doing more things with him sometimes the kid is just trying to get more attention from you even though it may seem you spend plenty of time with him you may not be to him!!
2006-09-13 14:41:46 · answer #11 · answered by ghettolicous1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋