I feel like I'm never going to find that one person that is my soulmate. I've been in a few relationships but nothing ever lasting that long. And I haven't been in one for quite some time. It seems that I "talk" to a guy for a few months then things just stop. My family always makes fun of me for being single when my brother and sisters are all either married, engaged or dating someone. It's not like I'm a lepur... I think I'm a reasonably good-looking person, I'm funny, I listen, I'm understanding and honest. I have a lot of good qualities, but I'm still finding it really hard to meet people. Any suggestions?
2006-09-13 06:53:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't rush. These things take time. I'm 24, and I recently got married. I met my husband about 2 years ago, before that, I never had a boyfriend. Ever. I had questions too back then. I was told that I was very attractive and men stopped to look at me, but I can never find The One. But life goes on. It's not just about getting a guy and then settle down. Why not enjoy your life while you're still single? Go have fun with your girlfriends and do the things you love while waiting for the right guy. He will come, trust me. Don't be bothered with your family's comment, lighten up, and laugh with them, but if they insult, be firm and stand your ground.
2006-09-13 07:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meeting some fresh new people that could be potential partners is difficult. It's kind of like looking for a new job, you have to check out what's available. Finding a good soul mate probably won't take place at a bar, unless you want to spend the rest of your life there. Try dating a number of different people. Speed dating, e-harmony, or (dare I say) Yahoo's Personals are good places to start. Friends of your friends or co-workers may be the right choice for you. Good luck
2006-09-13 06:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Brian H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being yourself, maybe you feel pressured because all your siblings are in relationships, but how old are you??? Life is for you to enjoy one day at a time, you only have one, and it is better to wait and keep meeting people, you already know what you are worth, so don't sweat it, when the time is right, there will be a Mr. Right. Keep enjoying life and just wait for the right person, is better of to wait for the right person than to rush into a relationship, get married and then find out that person wasn't right for you. Just take one day at a time, and believe me, when you start hanging out with friends, and stop looking for someone to meet.....someone will find you! ;)
2006-09-13 07:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, stop beating yourself up and relax!! second, talk to your family and tell them what they are doing is hurtful and wrong! theres nothing wrong with being "single"!!! ask them to stop. third stop trying to "force" the issue, the "right one" will come along when the time is right. trying to find him or making someone the right one wont work and will cause you a lifetime of pain. theres nothing wrong with you!! relax and have FUN, date and have FUN !!!! find activities and hobbies to keep you busy. are you still in school? do they have any clubs or activities you could join? try joining the gym or becoming a volunteer somewhere. do you go to church? find a church with a good youth program. ask around. be yourself and good luck!!!
2006-09-13 07:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by kini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have any other qualities in you, but you lack the one that matters most! That is self-confidence! Trust yourself and give yourself a chance. Try to look what guys don't like in you and try to change that if you feel they are bad.
2006-09-13 07:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you know what are you looking for?sometimes the problem is not on finding the right one. people would say "anyone, who can understand me" bla bla bla.. i think that doesn't work for some people, at least for me. i was like you for sometimes, but then when i finally set my standard, i'm able to determine who i want to be with. so i say, make your standard, don't get to high, but don't get to low... hope this help...
2006-09-13 07:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by mbagus_st 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will eventually i am the same way! but the guy im with now is not only my boyfriend but is my bestfriend. but i felt the same way you do for a long time.
2006-09-13 06:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by justa girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold up a sign that reads 1dollar a hug..
you will meet lots of people and make money..
2006-09-13 06:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and don't lower your standards!
Good Luck!
2006-09-13 06:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good things happen to those who wait.people come and go you'll know when you meet Mr.Right
2006-09-13 06:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by soft heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋