i cant get clear of my 2 yr old for a second ..she is stuck to me ..dr. says it will go away but its getting worst ,she wont stay with anyone and will cry till she throws up and stresses if i leave her ...what to do any suggestions ...got info from the dr and that didnt help!!!!!
2006-09-13 06:50:10 · 9 answers · asked by alisonkarissafeltham 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
don't say bye, say stuff like i will be right back, leave for a while but come right back, to show her everything is OK.
just work with her little by little, also let her carry a picture of you it might help..
stay away from the words bye, see you, miss you..
good luck
2006-09-13 06:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's always good to have opinions of others. Never know when someone's ideas will come in handy. My 2 yr old son is very clingy and every time I go into the bathroom I lock the door so he can't come in and talk to him through the door so that he knows I'm still here. I try to make it a game for him-sometimes it works, other times, well I'm sure you can guess what happens. LOL I do watch Super Nanny so I get ideas off of that show to help with seperation anxiety and other things for my 8 and 4 yr olds. A quick exit is usually the best way to go. Don't stand there and say 'I have to go." or things like that. Just leave. I've done that and my husband tell me our son stops crying after a minute or two. His older brother and sister usually help distracting him so that's good. Hope this helps.
2006-09-13 23:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows if she overreacts, you will stay. Why don't you make up a game: you tell her it's a babysitting game. Buy a doll or animal (of her choice). When she is in a good mood, tell her her doll (or animal) is going to babysit her for three minutes while you are going to taking the trash out or going to the bathroom or going to the backyard, etc. (so she knows you are near). You tell the doll to take care of her like she's real. Make it fun and playful. If it works, do it five minutes next day. then 7 minutes, etc. Finally, get a real babysitter and try for 15 minutes (only if she agrees).
My daughter cried everyday for an entire year when I dropped her off at the day care. Then for a whole month at the kindergarten. She didn't know why. She just did. So one day we played a going to school game and practiced saying good-bye. It was so funny the second day, she stopped crying.
2006-09-13 14:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by spot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the Nanny just had this one and what she had the mother do it tell her child she was running and errand for 15 minutes and that she would be back and he was staying with daddy. Then she left immediately, (no, one more hug, wait a kiss, etc). Dad then was responsible to get the child immediately interested in an activity, when mom came home after the 15 minutes, she greeted the child - said I'm back and went about her business.
they will cry but will adjust.
2006-09-13 13:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by island3girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. my second child is so clingy to me and i think that's because i stay home with her. Well ...she will have to stay with someone that's the only way and she's throwing a temper tantrum. she will have to learn to be away from you. i do that with my daughter...she will cry but i just leave. and she'll cry on and off till i come back. if i don't do this...my husband and i won;t ever be able to do things together.
2006-09-13 14:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to leave then leave. She will get over it. Most kids get over it 15 min after your gone.
My daughter went through that when she was little and then she grew out of it. But now she is almost 5 and back in it. She doesn't want me to leave her at school. She cries and begs me to stay. It is heart breaking but the teacher says she is fine in a few min. All they do is distract her and shes fine. Kids have a short attention span.
2006-09-13 20:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is just leave. Leave her in a place that you know is safe....just put her down and go. You will feel horrible, but it's not mean...you want her to be independent, especially the older she grows. Once you are gone, and she realizes nothing tragic is going to happen...she'll be ok.
Prolonging the process won't help..she'll be in school before you know it...and that could be worse.
Just start with leaving her for a short period of time with someone she knows...and gradually you will be able to get away for longer....
Just think....some day, she won't want you anywhere near her....funny, isn't it? Good luck. :)
2006-09-13 14:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by loubean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your doctor was correct, it's just that you didn't like what the doctor told you. It's getting worse because you are making it worse. She is going to cry and "stress" when you leave her because YOU are her mother. If you didn't want to be a mother then you should not have given birth, because this is what it's all about. Being able to tolerate this type of behavior and being patient.
2006-09-17 05:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got info from the Dr. which didn't help, and you expect to get better info here?
Mom, you need to talk to a counselor!
it's separation anxiety, and it's common, and it can be broken. But it will just about break your heart getting it done, too!
Ladies who want to get pregnant, pay attention now; it's NOT a bed of roses!
Good luck, mom!
2006-09-13 15:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋