This weekend is my 30th birthday and my husband got us a room in San Diego right on the beach with his grandparents timeshare. (Which is no refundable and his grandparents will be mad because they will loose there points.) However my grandmother has cancer and just yesterday was admitted into the hospital with neumonia. She does not want anyone to see her sick and has told everyone to stay away but I feel like I should go just in case this is the last time I get to see her again, but I don't want to upset anyone......Also I was just up to see her in June and I will be going again for Thanksgiving.
2006-09-13 06:47:36 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
fufill her wishes and send her a card with her favorite flowers to tell her that your thinking of her and that when she's feeling better to call you whereever you are end the note by saying that you look forward to seeing her on thankgiving. She'll like that more than a suprise visit. AND you get to go on your trip! Bon Voyage!!
2006-09-13 06:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to cancel your trip this is something your husband planned for your specialty. But on the other hand see if you can go visit her for a moment, every moment counts. Try to go see her before you leave town. At least if something happens to her you can say I did get to see her for the last time, You wouldn't feel guilty or hurt because you didn't get the chance to see her. Things happened and she got sick right here at a moment were you had plans to go to San Diego, try to make some time to see her before you leave.
2006-09-13 13:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. As a matter of fact, you should go see your sick grandmother and celebrate your 30th birthday at the same time. That way, she can see you turn 30 right before her very eyes.
2006-09-13 14:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What will you think looking back on your life? What would you regret more? Not celebrating your 30th on the beach, or not seeing your grandma for what may be the last time?
I can tell that you're tormented by this. I hope that your husband and his grandparents can see how caring you are, and I hope they respect whatever decision you make.
2006-09-13 14:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by diskkidd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit your grandmother, it may be the last time you will ever see her. If it was your husband's grandparents, they would want someone by their side. If they refuse to understand your point of view on this they can get glad the same way they got mad.
2006-09-13 14:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go see your sick grandmother, because even know it will make his grandparents mad. You will have more b-days, and your grandma may not. On my birthday, I went to Cincinnatti, Ohio for my birthday, and over the weekend my sick grandfather died, after saying his last words that he wanted to talk to me. I was so busy partying, that I didnt hear my phone ring. I will regret that for the rest of my life. I didnt think my grandpa was that sick, and knew he could make it till after my b-day. Guess not! =(
2006-09-13 13:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother has asked that no one be around. You can look at it two ways, a cry for help or her being very serious. What she has to understand is that she has family that loves and cares for her and should be there for her no matter what she says. It shouldn't be a tuff decision to make but I hope you make the right one.
2006-09-13 13:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what your heart tells you to do. Do you think your Grandmother is going to die before you return? Are you going to have a good time wondering if she is still alive? This one is totally up to you, but maybe you could talk to some family members and find out their opinion and go from there.
And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
2006-09-13 13:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not live until thanksgiving, I'd enjoy ur b-day, but keep ur cell on in case of an emergency and then see here the weekend u get back.
2006-09-13 13:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see her after the trip. She said she did not want anyone to see her sick. Go enjoy the trip, then go see her afterwards. Go see her in Thanksgiving. Enjoy the turkey.
2006-09-13 13:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋