Here's the deal, there is this amazing girl I met recently, but before meeting her I had already met her bunch of girlfriends, and I talk to them everyday by Messenger and we go out to the movies, dinner, to the club etc...
Is this a good strategy?? I mean, to win over her friends so that they have a nice opinion of me, so that when I start hitting on this girl I like, they support her by saying good things about me...?
They are my friends anyway, doesnt matter if this girl donesnt like me, they would still be my friends and we could still hang out a lot...
2006-09-13 06:32:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats actually a pretty good strategy; usually us men have to get the girl first and then be accepted by her friends. This way, they can vouch for you.
However, be careful because this can backfire if the girlfriends know something about you that might come off wrong; or if one of the girlfriends likes you, she might play something off so she can have you for herself.
Try talking to your friends to see if she would have any interest in you. If not, you can avoid the awkward conversation; if she does, it could only make things easier.
2006-09-13 06:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cool to have friends male/female doesn't matter. And yes, a high opinion with her friends can work in your favor. But these are the two things you have to watch out for:
1. You can wind up in the "friend" zone.
2. You do not want one of her friends falling for you, because then she won't.
2006-09-13 06:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by krissy4543 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop using these girl friends of hers and be straight up. your using them to get to her, why not just be yourself and ask her out? if she likes you it wont matter to her what they say and if not, in the long run it wont matter what they say. do you think she is so stupid she cant make up her own mind? why do you need others to validate you? if you are a good person, she will see it, if not she will see that to. to me i wouldnt give you the time of day knowing what your doing and i hope she sees it, you need to come clean with her friends and ask her out on your own merits. you said you had already met her friends, then you said you were trying to win them over so they would say nice things about you, this is a contradiction!!! sounds like your being sneaky and this doesnt say much for you. like i said, if you are a decent guy then come clean with her and her friends, ask her out and give her the chance she deserves to make up her own mind.
2006-09-13 06:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by kini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y E S !! but be careful that none of the other girls start to develop a crush on you. After you snag her up drop low from the others or take her with you if you still want to hang out with them.
2006-09-13 06:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by 1broWnMermaid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to any idiot who says no. What kind of name is "C" anyway?
Trust me, if her girlfriends think you're cool, they'll tell her you're a good choice. Girls talk about prospective guys all the time. Even if she does'nt like you now, when her friends talk about you, she'll grow to like you.
2006-09-13 06:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by delanodesroches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing alright as long as one or two of them do not have the mistaken hope that you'll fall in love with them. If so, jealousy will plague your relationship with this or any girl.
She may already be wondering why you haven't befriended her.
2006-09-13 06:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a wise group of women once said, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends..."
I would suggest that once you win fair maiden, you don't hang out with your other girlfriends without the one that you are dating, out of respect and the fact that she might get jealous.
Good luck!
2006-09-13 06:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. friends have a HUGE impact on relationships. if they like you and think you are a great guy, they will play that up when she asks them about you.
2006-09-13 06:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by mytrollinid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure its cool but don't make her feel jealous for instance when she is around make her feel like she is the only reason you are there
2006-09-13 06:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by dydy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I guess, but be careful some other guy doesn't snap her up first!
2006-09-13 06:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋